Identity politics and dating

Life Dating & Relationships
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I did read somewhere that a dating app had mined and crunched data about which races picked who to date… sadly, black women had the least amount of hits by far of any group.

Some other findings… Asian women were split between being interested in white men and Asian men, but had very low interest in black men…white men marginally favored Asian women … and black men heavily favored white women. Black women were the only group that preferred their own race by far, but unfortunately black men didn’t feel the same way. Also, men looked for younger women, and women looked for older men, but that last one is hardly surprising.

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My patriarchy will send me a list of lawyers if I get arrested. That seems to be about the extent of their support.

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I blame the white supremacist patriarchy.

The really sad thing is, somebody somewhere almost certainly does and they’ve got some convoluted theory as to why this is the case.

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Our patriarchy is bigger than your patriarchy!

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Maybe back in the 19th century…

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I’m sure a lot of my former professors and classmates from my graduate school in the US would buy into that notion. I got lectured for half an hour about how only white people can be racist, so that really does happen. I’m fairly liberal, but in a more traditional sense. I’ll give the right one thing… colleges in the US really do have a liberal slant, and not oldschool liberal, but modern twitter/tumblr identity politics neo-liberal. Censorship of ideas or even plain facts is rampant. It’s sad, really… they’ve become exactly what they used to despise.

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Well, if it weren’t for the white supremacist patriarchy, why is that the case?

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Large numbers of black women state explicitly in their profiles that they only date black men.

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And I respect them for that. But I could only imagine the online outrage if I said the same about white women (or shock Asian women).

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Without double standards, they’d have no standards at all. :sunglasses:

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That is such a poor argument.

You guys keep drawing parallels when they aren’t comparable at all. It’s the same as having an all-black school or an all-black club. You can’t have an all-white school or an all-white club.

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  1. Racial sexual preferences are different than social exclusion of entire groups.

And 2. I wouldn’t want to belong to an all-white club, but I’m also leery of all-black clubs. Why is that needed, and what message does that send?

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Better than your non-existent argument.

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I’m beginning to get the feeling that it’s going to be my fault (as a cisgender, white American male) that black women can’t get a date on Tinder. I don’t know the details just yet; just a hunch I have.

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So you are telling me that they receive fewer hits because they say they only date black men on their profile?

Give me a break. It is the imperialist aesthetics.

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That’s a loaded question. What do you think?

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Oooh, good one. How does toxic masculinity fit in? I mean, I know it must. :popcorn:
(imperialist aesthetics - dafuq?)

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I noticed you didn’t call yourself heterosexual, which might just be your salvation.

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I thought I covered that base with “cisgender” and “male,” but I can see that there may be some wiggle room. Not that there’s anything wrong with that!

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In my personal experience, black American females generally do not match with me culturally. Not to toot my own horn, but outside of probably Asian, black American females have generally been the demographic of females most attracted to me. But in my own experiences, they just make me run the other way.

And many of my American black male friends agree. Nothing to do with looks.

Am I allowed to say this?