I suggested to a girl that we have a meal together. She said we can. She immediately suggested a number of places. I hope she’s being sincere and not backing out at the last minute by coming up with an excuse.
Can you try and make sense please?
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I hope she’s being sincere and not backing out at the last minute by coming up with an excuse.
Without knowing anything about either of you, here’s me two cents:
She seemed genuinely interested in having the meal, so I’d focus on managing your own anxieties and insecurities.
If she does back out, respond with understanding and openness, as her change of plans could be for a million reasons, none of them you.
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What makes you think she might?
Your post doesn’t mention who you’re meeting, so it’s impossible for anyone to guess what she’s up to, especially if you’re unsure yourself. Women have diverse personalities and behaviors. Only one way to find out.
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She had a 2-hour conversation with me outside of work. We talked about all sorts of things. She’s formally my manager. However, I rarely work with her.
many women will back out at the last minute instead of outrightly rejecting men?
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This could get interesting and messy fast.
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And always will be.
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Cool.
IMO it’s far more important to focus on what you can control - your own feelings and insecurities about whether she’ll pull out.
At this early stage, allowing a prospective partner to already be negatively affecting your emotions and mental state, I would say is a sign that you should probably attend to that as well.
I’d even say that’s the more pressing concern.
Women come, women go. You have to live with yourself at the end of the day and be peaceful and content, alone or otherwise. Try your best, but also try and practice a little detachment.
Neither your nor her happiness should be depend on the other.
Well, she already seems to be managing his emotions somewhat 
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When in Rome, do Roman?
I was walking home. She saw me and stopped to have a conversation with me. It ended up being 2 hours long. She asked me about the company. We also talked about our previous jobs. We told each other our age. I’m 32 and she’s 30. She also asked whether or not there are any couples who work at this company. She said that if there are guys at the company who keep mentioning my age, just tell them that “I’m married with 3 children”.
If you do go to dinner, I would just laugh and tell her you had to ask a bunch of foreigners what it means if you go to dinner with a female colleague. Haha— is it a date or not? Haha- well, so— is it?
And then lean in— 
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So she’s telling you, she’s married with 3 children without telling you directly she’s not interested in a relationship.
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I think it’s a reference to a TV show.
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she told me that she’s single and lives by herself.
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asking whether or not any there are any couples at work is a weird lol
your manager is asking you about the company?
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