If a guy asks a girl to have a meal together, will the girl consider it a date?

Life Dating & Relationships
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It could be a deflection, so that she’s putting it out that there that the purpose of the dinner is only to get to know each other.

It could be that she’s thinking about getting to know you better
:wink::wink::wink:

I think if I were an expert on local girls I would have had a real girlfriend, but also that there are context clues we are missing because we can’t see her face or otherwise the totality of your interactions with her

Whatever it is, it is risky. How interested are you really, and are you willing to walk away from the job if it comes to that?

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When’s performance review?
Before or after dinner?
How long you been working there?

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I typically don’t perform until after dinner…

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the performance review is coming up in a few months. Several months after dinner.

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Maybe take some online personal risk management classes.

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Oh wait, my bad. She is your boss NOW?

No, dude. No.

Don’t even do it. Tell her all the places she suggested are too expensive. Tell
Her you were thinking coffee.

Sure someone said don’t shit where you eat right?

My apologies. I thought you said she was your former boss. :bowing:

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yes, she is formally my manager.

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based on her response, do you think she’s interested?

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she crossed the line when she told me that she would give me a good performance review during the 2-hour conversation

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And she’s your manager now? In the new company?

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she’s new to the company. yes, she’s formally my manager. In reality, we hardly work together.

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I think you’ve solved your own thread here.

Helpful hint: don’t call women “gals.”

The fact that this didn’t set off any alarm bells and that you’re discussing this situation with strangers on the internet tells me that you’re not ready for a relationship and should just stick to working on your career for the time being.

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How would any of us know?

It’s impossible for anyone in an anonymous online forum online to give you any definitive insight and answer, unless they were actually there and understand the entire situation and people involved. There’s not enough context.

All you’re gonna get is endless speculation.

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Shes your manager? She probably just wants to have a big meeting with you.

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Could just have a quick lunch in the canteen. Why all the fuss?

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Of course you don’t date your manager. It could work out, but the risks are too great. The problem now is it’s a bit awkward pulling out of the dinner date you’ve offered her.

If I were in your situation, and I wouldn’t be, I’d be hoping that she cancels. If she doesn’t cancel, then I’d still go on the dinner date but keep it professional.

I’m surprised your manager is being so unprofessional when she’s just started a new job.

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[Bold] = lolol

Wear a mask to restaurant if you want to keep it professional.
Only take halfway off to eat.

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Formerly or formally ? There’s a difference in how to approach

In the USa there are extremely strict rules for conduct in the office especially when it comes to dating especially dating your manager

It may be a bit less if she was a former manager of yours

Both situations could potentially cost you or her or both your jobs

It’s so serious that many in the US workforce are afraid to date coworkers and especially a manager and especially YOuR manager

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formally. She’s my current manager.

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I wonder if she’s expecting something from me when she says “I’ll give you a good performance review.”

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