If a guy asks a girl to have a meal together, will the girl consider it a date?

[keoni]

@roman1

I asked her to have a meal together with me this week. She said we can. She then suggested a number of places.

So you’re paying the bill right? Be careful if she shows up with her extended family.

[roman1]

based on her response, do you think she thinks of it as a date?

[keoni]

@roman1

she told me that she’s single and lives by herself.

So she’s telling you that she want to have 3 kids with you without saying she wants to have 3 kids with you?

[roman1]

I’ve always wondered why she seems really happy to talk to me in person after work. However, at work, she is friendly with everyone else, but appears cold towards me.

[roman1]

I feel that it’s her subsconscious at work lol

[keoni]

You must be a handsome man. Or have a really good personality. Or both.

[roman1]

why so? Is she thinking way too far ahead? She’s 30 and I’m 32.

[Poundsand]

@roman1

yes, I just am really nervous b/c if the relationship doesn’t work out. It could blow up in my face. I don’t know how she’ll react.

How important is your job to you, and how easy is it to replace?

[roman1]

very important and very difficult to replace.

[Poundsand]

@roman1

very important and very difficult to replace.

Yea, don’t try to make it a date. Hell, make an excuse to back out of the dinner until you know her better, and then keep it mostly professional.

[roman1]

the day before I asked her to have a meal together, she told me that she’ll give me a good performance review (even though she’s only been my manager for less than 2 weeks…)

[TT]

@roman1

yes, I just am really nervous b/c if the relationship doesn’t work out. It could blow up in my face. I don’t know how she’ll react

We have threads on psycho xiaojies, and rat poison

Or she might just make your life difficult at work.

If it were me, and she was really interesting/hot, and I didn’t mind looking for a new job, I’d see where dinner leads. Otherwise, just a friendly dinner, notadate, welcome to the company I look forward to our positive professional relationship

[TT]

@amitkattal

Just have dinner with her. In Taiwan dating and dinner isn’t same. Many women have dinner with a guy and it’s never a date

I was seeing a girl for months, including sleepovers, and she never wanted to describe what we were doing as “dating”. I think the word meant something more serious to her than she was interested in…

[roman1]

I jokingly mentioned going out. She smiled and laughed. She then said we can get to know each other better.

[TT]

@roman1

she said we can get to know each other better

I have meals with people to get to know them better, it isn’t always a date. Some of these people are married men!

[roman1]

@TT any comments on this?

[keoni]

@roman1

she said we can get to know each other better.

All fine and good, but in your situation, it’s safer to friendzone her.

[roman1]

so she’s interested in something more?

[roman1]

@roman1

I jokingly mentioned going out. She smiled and laughed. She then said we can get to know each other better.

I jokingly mentioned going out. She smiled and laughed. She then said we can get to know each other better.

[the_bear]

She’s up for it. Just do it. Or don’t do it. I doubt we can help you.

@tommy525 ?