I am spending a month and a bit at my in-laws’ house to get to know the country and the family of my girlfriend, with whom I have been with for 4 years.
At the time of buying the flight I did not want to stay so long, but the girl insisted and I ended up accepting, a little reluctantly. She has come to my house countless times for Christmas, Easter, long weekends… and my parents have treated her wonderfully. They are fond of her and consider her as a daughter practically. And, of course, they have NEVER run her down, nor have they ever disparaged her.
It turns out that, being here, I have been noticing certain behaviors from my in-laws that upset me, especially from my mother-in-law. The ***** constantly reproaches me for anything I do BEHIND MY BACK. She tells my girlfriend about it and then my girlfriend tells me about it.
At first, I put this whole thing down to cultural differences. For example, when I say good morning to them, they don’t even look me in the face and respond in a very cold and brusque, curt way, almost as if they don’t want to answer me.
“Cultural differences,” I said to myself.
Here are some more examples of some of my in-laws’ jewels:
-The mother, from time to time, gives me murderous, menacing looks out of nowhere. I’ve never caught her, but my girlfriend tells me about it afterwards.
-One day we arrived home a little late (at 10.30 p.m. LOL) and, as the father was already in bed, so when we entered the door I greeted him with a gesture, just like my girlfriend did. Well, mother-in-law then told my girlfriend that it was very rude not to say anything to her.
-My girlfriend touches my face a little and displays and shows affection, she shakes my hand, etc. As you can see, nothing exaggerated. Well, my in-laws also throw it in her face. What are we even doing if we are not married and that all that is because of me, that I influence her.
-When I take a shower, I whistle from time to time. On stepping out of the bathroom, my girlfriend tells me that her parents are very angry because whistling attracts spirits (I ignored this back then).
Now I understand when my girl told me that her parents and her sister were constantly at odds with each other because the former are constantly criticizing her husband -who is a Taiwanese-. Normal. What a crazy duo.
I don’t get it at all. I help out by cleaning dishes, the house, offering to help them with everything and what I receive is this. My girlfriend is also pissed off and doesn’t understand why they treat me like this.
Anyway, thank God I’m leaving tomorrow.