Girls care if their bfs remember their birthday .
Because they think it shows how much their bfs love them.
Some of them care about what gift their bfs will give to them .
And it’d better a surprise.
My friend was mad at her bf because he forgot her birthday.
Hmm,is a birthday gift really necessary(or important) in a relationship?
Depends. Me and the wife don’t exchange birthday presents because 1) She’s never been accustomed to getting them when she was growing up and 2) Because I’m a tight bastard.
We still give each other gifts from time to time, though. When one of us sees something the other might like, but not just because its a birthday or Christmas or whatever.
Yes, and you missed mine. Novermber 2cd. I want one of those dvd players that hook up to a 200gig hard drive, so I can watch my downloads more easily then by running the wire from the LCDTV to my lappy.
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Depends, yes. But seriously if you’re with someone who you don’t enjoy having an excuse to give something to, you’re possibly in need of finding someone you dig more.
I side with your friend. I throw tantrums if my birthday is forgotten. I dropped 10k on my man’s bday and then he forgot mine. I almost killed him. Then I got a (stuffed) puppy and I won’t kill him now.
Just last week, for example, my wife brought me home a nice pair of jeans. Talk about serendipity! Imagine the wonder and gratitude on her face when I reached into my bag and produced a brand new pair of Marigolds that I’d purchased for her that very same day!
It’s the little things like this that make up the very fabric of a caring relationship.
I’d say yes in most cases. I believe in being fair and communicating, though. If the girl whose b-day was missed was totally silent and gave no clues that her day was coming, or any indication of what she’d like as a gift, then she is partly to blame for the day not being remembered. Females, from my male point of view, often look for signs their men love them, but are often deliberately mum with the vital information and clues that would help their mates show their love. The men are often stuck trying to read minds.
Boyfriends should remember b-days (and girlfriends should too), but that the dates are important-- and that they are coming-- should not be a mystery.
I don’t celebrate any ‘special’ days.
Yes, and you missed mine. Novermber 2cd. I want one of those dvd players that hook up to a 200gig hard drive, so I can watch my downloads more easily then by running the wire from the LCDTV to my lappy.
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My friend …Scott’s birthday is Novermber 2cd,too.
I dont care the birthday gift.But I do care if he can remember the date.
I think this is the answer in short:
If it is important to your SO, then yes. It is important. If it is not, then no. It is not.
[quote=“SuchAFob”]I think this is the answer in short:
If it is important to your SO, then yes. It is important. If it is not, then no. It is not.[/quote]
That doesn’t take what he wants into consideration.
TALK to your partner and find a common ground.
Then you can claim the moral high ground when they transgress!
I disagree. If he doesn’t care about her birthday and she does, then he sucks it up. And then when there is something he cares about that she doesn’t, she sucks it up.
I care about birthdays, and MrsHill doesn’t. So who should suck it down? Who is right and what is wrong?
Who draws a list of: I care about birthdays, she cares about funerals, so we are even… ?
SuchAFob wrote: [quote]If he doesn’t care about her birthday and she does, then he sucks it up. And then when there is something he cares about that she doesn’t, she sucks it up.[/quote]
That’s a lot of sucking! It could be possible in the early stages of a relationship but difficult to imagine in a marriage. 
2:19 am, thats some serious drinking.
Tom Hill [quote]2:19 am, thats some serious drinking.[/quote]
A lucky guess. 
I got home at 10, and I’ve been working on a boring textbook project since (well, plus drinking and the occasional glance at forumosa).
Okay. I’m Jewish. I did Christmas this year for the first time ever. Because he likes Christmas.
We aren’t talking about giving things up for people. We aren’t talking about not doing something that we like for someone. We are talking about doing something for someone because it is important to them.
True I’m not talking about my husband so I don’t have room to talk on the marriage front as in the “already married” front. But I can promise that I would never marry a man who would not do things that were important to me simply on the grounds that they were not important to him. Part of respecting people’s differences is respecting the things that matter to them.
I think if she knows it is important to you she should do something for your birthday.
[quote=“SuchAFob”]I think this is the answer in short:
If it is important to your SO, then yes. It is important. If it is not, then no. It is not.[/quote]
I think that’s exactly right. I also think most westerners are accustomed to receiving presents on their birthdays, or at least happy birthday greetings, whereas Taiwanese are apparently less accustomed to that.
So, if one really cares about one’s SO one will try to figure out if it is important to him/her and if so accomodate that to a certain extent even if one didn’t grow up with that as part of one’s own background (same for Christmas).
It doesn’t require much. Even picking up a few beers from 7/11, or a chocolate cupcake from the bakery on the way home from work, or whatever small token he/she might appreciate, and presenting them to him/her with a “Happy Birthday” would be a very nice gesture and should be totally sufficient. If one does even more and buys a “real” gift even better.
If the person really doesn’t care at all, I guess that’s not necessary, but I’d bet that deep down inside most westerners would feel disappointed if their SO didn’t even mention their birthday.
[quote=“SuchAFob”]
I think if she knows it is important to you she should do something for your birthday.[/quote]
Wait… MrsHill can always answer this one when we talk about birthdays. Damn, what is it she says? ‘Something something shut up Tom, I need to eat…’
No I’ve lost it.
Anyway, we are wrong and MrsHill is right. If they aren’t important for the woman then the man needs to forget about them too.
Well,I think Taiwanese are accustomed to giving the birthday gift or birthday greetings.
Especially for someone we care and love.