you did notice she asked you which one you wanted to FIST didnt you??? :)
Get philosophical on her. Tell her itâs a question devoid of meaning (Socrates is dead, sheâs not and that 'aint changing anytime soon) and therefore answering it would be not only meaningless but intellectually dishonest and emotionally misleading.
You love her. Engaging in a little dialogue over a pint with Socrates would be cool. Thatâs it.
If she wants to know whether youâd choose her or a living philosopher, thatâs another matter.
Put more simply:
That question does not deserve an answer.
Apologies for the multiple posts, but Iâm on a roll.
Alternatively, get Platonic on her.
Ask her to imagine a man who was 100% perfect and ideal in every way (including not being boring or irritating for that reason). Everything about him is better than you. If she says âhe may be perfect but heâs not youâ - then he must be even more you. He could even look like you - only better.
Who would she choose? You, who she loves and yet is not perfect (I assume) or him, who by definition she would love and would be perfect?
Itâs a silly question - though it could have meaning in the sense of revealing things about thought processes, assumptions and indeed whether you believe in Platoâs theory of forms.
good idea, but you canât fool someone whoâs not paying attention
Or how about you ditch her because she sounds like an immature little girl, not a confident, mature woman?
Well, thatâs about 90% of the girls in Taiwan, doesnât it? At least the ones between 15 and 25. The ones older than that are, in general, pretty mature and sensible. At least in my experience. There ainât nuthinâ better than a Taiwanese MILF. All you guys getting frustrated with your girlfriendsâŚwell, think about it for two seconds: youâre going out with 19 year old girls with no brains, experience, or emotional maturity. What do you expect? Go for the MILFs, dude. Seriously. Thatâs where you will find the best women in Taiwan.
Probably so. But my point was that it is ridiculous to tolerate this kind of childish behavior from his current girlfriend, who is the person in the spotlight here.
Sorry if I sound overly cynical, but I cannot imagine a functional, healthy, mature relationship where a man tells his lady that he has been enjoing a volume of classical philosophy, and her response is âSee it is always this way with you. Pick either Socrates or me.â
Now it would be one thing if his nose was always buried in a book and he was completely ignoring her. But I donât get that sense from the posted conversation. It sounds more like they both enjoy reading in their spare time, and he was just trying to start a conversation about what they have been reading. Her response was on par with a sixth-grader who - one day after passing a boy a note with the words âI like youâ on it - now feels jilted that he did not notice her new red shoes.
[quote=âgao_bo_hanâ] Sorry if I sound overly cynical, but I cannot imagine a functional, healthy, mature relationship where a man tells his lady that he has been enjoing a volume of classical philosophy, and her response is âSee it is always this way with you. Pick either Socrates or me.â
Now it would be one thing if his nose was always buried in a book and he was completely ignoring her. But I donât get that sense from the posted conversation. It sounds more like they both enjoy reading in their spare time, and he was just trying to start a conversation about what they have been reading. Her response was on par with a sixth-grader who - one day after passing a boy a note with the words âI like youâ on it - now feels jilted that he did not notice her new red shoes.[/quote]
Good point. I agree. Itâs also notable that the gf in question is apparently reading Judy Blume, whose target audience is around age 11, while the OP is reading Socrates. I canât imagine that this would be an intellectually stimulating relationship for the OP in any respect, but that doesnât mean that itâs not stimulating in other ways.
Yeah but Erhu, have you ever been out with a man for his brains?
I must, I must, I must increase my bust!
AHA! Iâm beginning to see why Iâm not getting laid.
And even more disturbing is that Iâm correcting 914 on her ditty â Only TWO âI musts,â not three.
How in the name of sweet jumping Jeebuz do I know THAT?
Sheâs reading judy blume because thatâs the level her english is at. Reading a young adult novel in a foreign language is no mean feat.
AHA! Iâm beginning to see why Iâm not getting laid.
And even more disturbing is that Iâm correcting 914 on her ditty â Only TWO âI musts,â not three.
How in the name of sweet jumping Jeebuz do I know THAT?[/quote]
Sorry, but 914 is right. From the Judy Blume book, Are You There God? Itâs Me, Margaret.:
[quote]âIf you ever want to get out of those baby bras you have to exercise,â she told us.
âWhat kind of exercise?â Gretchen asked.
âLike this,â Nancy said. She made fists, bent her arms at the elbow and moved them back and forth, sticking her chest way out. She said, âI must â I must â I must increase my bust.â She said it over and over. We copied her movements and chanted with her. âWe must - we must - we must increase our bust!â
âGood,â Nancy told us. âDo it thirty-five times a day and I promise youâll see the results.â[/quote]
And I really donât think you can get more disturbing than that.
What he said.
Sheâs reading judy blume because thatâs the level her english is at. Reading a young adult novel in a foreign language is no mean feat.[/quote]
Fair enough. If sheâs going to be reading more pre-teen books, you should recommend these. âChoose Your Own Adventureâ books were the best!
[quote=âErhuâ]
Fair enough. If sheâs going to be reading more pre-teen books, you should recommend these. âChoose Your Own Adventureâ books were the best![/quote]
Erhu are you sure? I thought many Taiwanese had trouble making a choice. Choosing your own adventure must be a paradox for most people here
[quote=âFunk500â][quote=âErhuâ]
Fair enough. If sheâs going to be reading more pre-teen books, you should recommend these. âChoose Your Own Adventureâ books were the best![/quote]
Erhu are you sure? I thought many Taiwanese had trouble making a choice. Choosing your own adventure must be a paradox for most people here[/quote]
Maybe they have special ones where every page has something like âIf you smile and stare vacantly, turn to page âŚâ.
The OP should turn the tables; âHuh, youâd rather read âAre You There God? Itâs Me, Margaret.â than talk to me? Waaaah!â
Oh, choose your own adventure! How cool was that when I was 10! I bet thereâs still a stack of them mouldering in the garage.
anyway, sheâs reading SUPERFUDGE last i heard
I wanted to recommend Robert Cormier but i donât think sheâd âgetâ him.
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Maybe they have special ones where every page has something like âIf you smile and stare vacantly, turn to page âŚâ.[/quote]
[quote=âBrendonâ][quote=âFunk500â][quote=âErhuâ]
Fair enough. If sheâs going to be reading more pre-teen books, you should recommend these. âChoose Your Own Adventureâ books were the best![/quote]
Erhu are you sure? I thought many Taiwanese had trouble making a choice. Choosing your own adventure must be a paradox for most people here[/quote]
Maybe they have special ones where every page has something like âIf you smile and stare vacantly, turn to page âŚâ.[/quote]
Thatâs funny, sure, but itâs not fair to a lot of Taiwanese who arenât like that.
In fact, I talked to one of them recently and I told her this whole story. She laughed and then said seriously: âI donât understand men.â
I laughed and said: âWell, the good news is, they donât understand us either.â
But seriously, beautifulspam, would you mind helping me understand a few things? For example, how do you make your relationship work and what do you get out of it?
Communication in a relationship is hard enough without the language barrier. If her English is on that said level, is your Chinese better? Or do you find that the limited communication actually works better? (Iâve heard this from others)
If youâre interested in philosophy but you canât discuss that with your girlfriend, does that matter? Iâve heard many men say they donât care too much what intellectual level their gf/wife has because they donât need that from them, they can get it somewhere else. Which I guess, if I really try, I can understand a little, It must be like when girls want to talk clothes and makeup with other girls.
In other words, you donât necessarily need to satisfy all your needs within your relationsihp.
Is that how it works for you?
This is not an issue specific to us here, at all. Before living in Taiwan Iâve been in mixed language relationships myself and Iâve friends who have or are, so this a pretty universal question. My current boyfriendâs Croatian is crap, but his English is not too bad.
Oh, and just out of curiosity, you said your girlfriend approved you posting the MSN convo, has she also read this thread?