[quote]But seriously, beautifulspam, would you mind helping me understand a few things? For example, how do you make your relationship work and what do you get out of it?
Communication in a relationship is hard enough without the language barrier. If her English is on that said level, is your Chinese better? Or do you find that the limited communication actually works better? (I’ve heard this from others) If you’re interested in philosophy but you can’t discuss that with your girlfriend, does that matter?
I’ve heard many men say they don’t care too much what intellectual level their gf/wife has because they don’t need that from them, they can get it somewhere else. Which I guess, if I really try, I can understand a little, It must be like when girls want to talk clothes and makeup with other girls.
In other words, you don’t necessarily need to satisfy all your needs within your relationsihp.
Is that how it works for you? [/quote]
What you seem to be asking me is, how can I be happy dating a woman I can’t connect with intellectually. After a lifetime of watching the talented, intelligent women in my life go straight for the alpha dog instead of the intellectual, I refuse to feel guilty about having a relationship based on physical attraction.
And yes, broadly speaking men differ from women in that we don’t require our SO to be our first, our last, our everything. I have a girlfriend and a life.
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Oh, and just out of curiosity, you said your girlfriend approved you posting the MSN convo, has she also read this thread?[/quote]
Of course. I gave her the link.