“Beauty (Cheating) is in the eye of the beholder”…glad about that Miltownk as i do like to ‘behold’ every now and then! :lol:
OK, perhaps looking at Cyber porn (or other porn for that matter) for self-gratification is not cheating… but there is also a line where it can and does for some interfere with the relationship with your SO/Spouse.
Now, onto Miltown’s post, I say “riddle me this Batman”, an ongoing “love affair” and by that I could mean no SEX, with someone, either online, on the phone, or IRL, where you feel significantly attached and connected and express those feelings, is that cheating? I don’t know, depends on the person and their intent. If I let my “pen pal” know that I love him or her and but for X we would be together. Or, if I let that person know… “I love u more deeply than my Spouse/SO” that could really, in my opinion be “cheating”. Isn’t that an intent sort of thing?
Now, Boys, I also want to make my point clear when I say intent… that doesn’t mean that “ooops she slipped and fell onto me when I had my pants down (but I didn’t intend too)” doesn’t fall into the cheating category! It does 
and you all know it!
There is a school of thought that says it is not a man’s morality that stops him from cheating on his partner, but rather a fear of the consequences of getting caught. The higher the perceived stakes, the more likely a man is to remain monogamous.
And didn’t Lorena Bobbitt up those stakes to a painfully high level?
Not cheating… imagination, if it could be packaged and sold, would be found in adult book stores next to dildos and love creams and designated a “marital aid”.
And besides, it don’t matter where you work up your appetite, so long as you eat at home!
In a way, yes.
Long ago my wife explained to me that any act by me that might cause any particular female, or any other person, to believe that said female could “have” me would be enough to cause my wife to lose face and thus such an act would be a “no no”.
As far as my wife is concerned, the act of sex outside of marriage is often merely the consumation of illicit emotions, and the existence of such fond emotions is the real problem.
How many guys out there have wives who have stated something such as “I don’t care if you have extra-matital sex, so long as it isn’t with anyone who knows us or anyone we know and so long as I don’t ever learn of it”? BTW, I don’t really believe this statement and thus have never tried to take advantage of the apparent license given, because I don’t think its for real… Well, that’s not the only reason… but listing those would become a lengthy proposition…
Now, my wife’s mind, odd as it is, operates under no delusions that I don’t enjoy lustfully leering at lovely lasses. However, my lustful leering is limited to looks that cannot be seen by others. In this way, nobody knows that I look and nobody can conclude, based upon my lustful leering, that any female other than my wife could “have” me.
My wife is a genius, I’m convinced. She keeps my bank card and bank book, and gives me an allowance for daily needs, and if I want something special, like a new iMac or more Belgian beer, she buys it for me. By buying beer for me and keeping money from me, she has me nailed down. I was a dandy in my younger days, but now I’m gettin’ older and looking it too, and getting fatter. If I had money, and the derilect inclination, I suppose I could pay for sex outside the bliss of marriage. But I haven’t any money, thanks to my wife. Alternatively, if I was really good looking, I might be able to get sex outside of marriage for free, say with a girl I could meet at a pub. But since I have no reason to go to a pub (as all my beautiful beer is at home) and anyway, all my beer makes me fat, it isn’t likely that any lasses would be interested in my fat physique and my empty wallet.
Tigerman,
I am in the same position as you. I didn’t think we had that much in common, but, I was wrong
Come on now Bassman and Tigerman, some girls gotta find you hot… after all your wife(s) still do right?
The lack of money, is probably more of a detriment than all of your “self proclaimed” other limitations 
My wife would probably like to have me in the same position. She’s trying to guarantee for my credit card. Does that count?
[quote=“Sharky”]OK, perhaps looking at Cyber porn (or other porn for that matter) for self-gratification is not cheating… but there is also a line where it can and does for some interfere with the relationship with your SO/Spouse.
Now, onto Miltown’s post, I say “riddle me this Batman”, an ongoing “love affair” and by that I could mean no SEX, with someone, either online, on the phone, or IRL, where you feel significantly attached and connected and express those feelings, is that cheating? I don’t know, depends on the person and their intent. If I let my “pen pal” know that I love him or her and but for X we would be together. Or, if I let that person know… “I love u more deeply than my Spouse/SO” that could really, in my opinion be “cheating”. Isn’t that an intent sort of thing?
Now, Boys, I also want to make my point clear when I say intent… that doesn’t mean that “ooops she slipped and fell onto me when I had my pants down (but I didn’t intend too)” doesn’t fall into the cheating category! It does and you all know it![/quote]
Simple, there’s physical cheating, emotional cheating and mixes of the two. I say imagining is just as bad as doing, but society doesn’t think so, so then it’s ok 
. monkey summed that up rather well. That’s why wealthy business men/women, Presidents 
and the likes cheat. What have they got to lose.
Emotional cheating is worse logically, but societaly (is that a word?) physical takes the cake. But a lot of (most?) times there are emotions that go along with the physical cheating.
And HEY, it’s only cheating when you get caught and if the person you playing with knows your cheating, is it really cheating?
Wait a minute, are we talking about relationships or counter strike? :?
In the words of Tom Waits “getcha a little something that you can’t get at home” (Pasties and a G-string)
Looks like we’re all getting it at home !
Tigerman what a great post. Your wife is a genius.
[color=blue]I feel unfairly excluded from this thread because I am not actually married, and when I was, it was not to somebody Chinese.[/color]
Fidelity is the vanity of the weak
[quote=“Sharky”]Come on now Bassman and Tigerman, some girls gotta find you hot… after all your wife(s) still do right?
The lack of money, is probably more of a detriment than all of your “self proclaimed” other limitations :-)[/quote]
Ok, I am still pretty HOT
Just my son gets most of the female attention these days - He’s 1 yr 4months and a real babe magnet. 
But, I think a man with a kid is a bit of a turn off and discourages those hot babes who are interested
But that’s not bad, my wife is a babe anyway
You never know in Taiwan. I know one guy who collected name cards from young females while having his teenage son in tow…
Before 
During
After
Discovered 
[quote=“Quirky”]Before
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Discovered [/quote]
LOL
I gave away all my Karma for Christmas… feel free to dontate if you think that was funny. 
And that was K$10 to you for being funny.
Merry Christmas etc.
Tigerman, don’t be silly. In my experience older, chubby individuals such as yourself have more luck picking up girls in bars than young, tall, charming people like, umm, me. 
But that’s possibly because they try a hell of a lot harder…