why is it so hard for taiwanese people to take responsibility for their actions?!! huh?! someone, please tell me why?
i know this can apply to people in general, regardless of race, sexual orientation, creed, economic status, but i just got home from the bar where a huge argument between my GF and I took place.
I am a firm believer that we all make choices; how we behave, feel, react. etc… no one can “make” you do anything.
I left my GF this past summer cause it was time to throw in the towel. details aren’t important. i made the choice because it was right for me.
now we’re back together, have worked things out, changes have been made on both parts etc, etc. etc.
GF recently gets a job review. during the summer when we were apart, it was a very painful time for both of us, but tonight i found myself being told my choice to break up with her is the cause of her shitty job performance… that when she looks at me she feels angry because if i hadn’t left her, she wouldn’t have done such a slog job at work.
I, on the other hand, don’t feel i should be held responsible for this. i did what i had to do for me at that time. Despite 3 months worth of “i’ve changed, i understand why you left me and agree etc…” i am more apt to beleive after tonight that it was all lip service.
do i blame her for being an ass at my job cause i felt out of sorts? no.
it just blows my mind that i am somehow responsible for her shitty performance… :raspberry:
and this isn’t a case of language barrier cause she’s fluent in english.