Whatever you decide. There’s no law that says you have to divorce someone under such-and-such a circumstance. In fact if (hypothetically) she does this then the law is entirely on your side. For example you could most likely tell her to bugger off and take whatever property you own jointly, with the support of the law. You could probably claim custody of the kid if you wanted to (although I suppose that depends on whether paternity was definitively established).
It’s not really my business, but if someone is mentioning this sort of thing even in jest, you’re in bigger trouble than you think. Have a careful think about how you’re going to deal with this before she boils down your soul into birds-nest soup. You hold all the legal cards in this situation - if she wants a divorce (and it sounds like she does) she needs your acquiescence to make it happen. It’s not unknown for people in your situation to demand a suitcase of cash to sign divorce papers. If your demands boil down to (a) you need your APRC and (b) you want to keep your savings, that should be easy negotiate.
how far is the leap from this to, say, murder-for-hire? I would tread very carefully and…well actually, I would get divorced immediately if this is not a joke.
If this lady is anything like my wife she is just blowing smoke. She is probably under a bit of stress and getting the wrong advice from her friends. You will have to drag her to the court to get a divorce, kicking and screaming.
Yup, it’s not unheard of, meaning it could simply be part of the local culture. I don’t have any good suggestions though how to find out if she really means it it not. Depending on her personality, different ways (even just “giving in”) could work or backfire terribly.
My understanding is that the laws are not in the spouse’s favor when it comes to cheating. It used to be a spouse could easily file a divorce if the spouse cheated and there was evidence, but that’s not the case. I know of MANY women whose husbands cheated on them (though all of them had kids). The husbands were able to/have been dragging out the divorce for years, usually on the grounds that they keep the son (to hell with the daughters) or the divorce doesn’t happen. Despite piles of evidence and even admissions from the women that cheated with the husband, the courts don’t always budge.
But if your spouse is threatening to get pregnant with another man, RUN AWAY. There’s a chance she’s already sleeping with someone(s) else and is just trying to figure out how to end it. You’ll need evidence of her doing that, but see paragraph 1: there’s a chance the courts won’t care
Her grounds for divorce is that she married you to have a family with kids and she can say " He does not want kids, so I wish to marry a man that does."
I would not be surprised if she does not have something prepared already… Therefore, would not care,about your APRC.
I stopped reading the thread once I saw the KUO & KUO ming pian.
I’ve know fellas in bad spots like this. My take: Stick it out for another year. Try not to stick it in. Get yer freedom visa and make like a tree and get out of there.
