Due to a problem Daughter I have no choice other than to leave Taiwan and go back to UK? Advise appreciated.
She is unbearable 19 year selfish ignorant child.
Her mother and I have been dating for over 3 years, I visited here Taipei twice a year and she came to me twice in that period.
No financial issues, I pay her a agreed monthly rental buying food and cooking done on a roughly not monitored 50/50 basis all out of home entertainment costs from my pocket I’m happy with.
We are very much in love and She is supportive of me and agrees her Daughter is a problem, however being the gentleman I know blood is thicker than water I’m the one that has to give.
Her father died from cancer when she was 4 years and her mother has been sole supporter since that time, one failed long term relationship down the daughter in that period.
When her mother is in the room she only say’s a hello to the back of my head in a whisper, I either don’t hear or she is to quick to complain and shouts it at me, this has been going on for 5 months, she will never look me in the eye as hard as I have tried to get her attention.
Past week has been the crux, we have a French teacher lodger who is very nice a little quite but other than that fine, she has now taken a huge dislike to her and has started her bullying tactics, blaming her for not doing any cleaning in the shared bathroom and not disposing of her rubbish in correct order working on forcing her out. (makes me sick, daughter has not done any cleaning since I’ve been here, dirty scruffy washes only her own dishes badly and frowns. I end up washing them again, she expects me to do her washing, I once took it from the line so I could put ours up, since then she will not take it of the line and carries on wearing same clothes until her mum does.) A lot of the clothes she wears I bought for her from UK and she has commandeered my pure wool vintage Crombie winter coat without asking, she took it from my wardrobe.
She won’t eat much when I’ve cooked pushes it around the plate in rare times she hasn’t avoided being in the apartment to eat knowing I’ve cooked. YET she will come in late at night when we are in bed and scoff all of it cold, she’s a very large girl obese in fact.
She completely ignored my good morning I say to her talks to her mother in usual shouting tone, the waits until I’m out of earshot says hello to me then does her usual screaming hello to me because her mother is there indicating I ignored her.
For the first time I responded and told her what I thought, she went hysterical saying to her mum she was going to apologise to me, I had to stop her assaulting her mum when she tried to stop running to her room to get away with it.
Stayed in her room until I had gone out, didn’t come home at night in the meantime messaging her aunt (who lives in London UK) saying she can’t go home because she is afraid, thankfully the aunt recommends she does go home and talk to her mother, she say’s she can’t unless she has a friend with her! She came home without a friend hid away until I was out and talked to her mother, has carried on ignoring my hellos shouting bye bye at me when leaving. Mother family live in Myanmar Chinese but grew up there so family speak in Burmese, now she know my Chinese is good enough to understand she has taken to talking in Burmese around the apartment.
I bought her some face masks her mum asked me to as a friendly gesture. I was happy to, when prompted to say thank you she said it in Burmese without looking at me, reprimanded by her mother she said she was joking and I understood the joke! Final straw in my book.
How do I deal with this without leaving.
PS: The French teacher lodger is saying she will be leaving too, will leave one happy bitch and 3 very unhappy others.