OP,
I’ve an idea why she turned “psycho”.
After 40 pages, we’re all sufficiently “warned” about “psychos”. Normal people just say, “Well, don’t say I didn’t warn you.”
But you insist for 40 pages that others agree… you look like you have an agenda. Insecure? Psychotic?
Your insistence on your own views might be partly why your relationship failed.
You insist the failure is 100% due to your “psycho” ex… taking 0% responsibility.
You insist on referring to her as a “psycho” in nearly every post, and that most TW women are “psychos”.
You insist on defending yourself with endless text walls.
So she and others here, insist on not listening to & agreeing with you… and you don’t get why???
You say the relationship was initially “perfect”, and then she “mutated” into a “psycho” at CNY. Well, look at CNY:
Her parents booked tickets for both of you to Europe for Xmas/NY. Say, +70K?
You didn’t pay them back until after CNY in Feb… instead of paying before the trip. Yet you make +200K.
You didn’t take care of your future family’s business… you took care of your own.
You insist you had no time, and “Taiwanese banking is so lame”.
So you never spent CNY with her family in previous years, and now they’re out +70K for CNY.
Maybe they needed the money for hongbaos; or just more consideration from a future son-in-law.
Like not ever showing up for family Christmas… and borrowing money for presents instead.
And you were engaged to their daughter, with a ring. And you don’t get why her parents changed their minds?
Worse, I bet you said & promised her a whole lot of sweet crap, like “I’ll take care of you”, etc.
So at the “talk”, she says it’s about the money (yes, and more). But you insist:
“She (and her parents) were letting this get far too much out of control, making… a mountain out of a molehill…”
Dismissing your future family’s concerns & POV, as “out of control”… as if they were “psycho”?
Yet still, she gives you a 2nd chance, “letting you come back to the house… we were together”. But you insist:
“She was still talking about it and making a fuss out of nothing.” Clearly not “nothing”. Notice your pattern?
And on Thursday, the day to make the payment, you insist on… going out to see your friends, “for a breather”.
No offense, but you’re an idiot if you don’t get now why she “flew off the side of the fence”.
She even said: “You shouldn’t go and see your friends this week out of all weeks.” Spend time with her to mend fences.
But you insisted: “I’d already resolved the problem.” 
:roflmao:
So you let your fiancee go home with the dog in a taxi in the rain (idiotic)… and she later emails you to break up:
“You’re irresponsible, incapable of thinking of her and just not thinking at all.” Right on all 3 counts.
But you insist: “She’d turned from the most amazing, sweetest person I’d ever known in my life, loved completely and couldn’t wait to finally marry to the most evil, two-faced psycho woman on the planet.”
Seeing her in such hyperbolic extremes, maybe you’re the one who’s psycho. You didn’t act like you “loved her completely & couldn’t wait to marry”. You’ve shown 0% responsibility for this outcome… and 0% remorse. Are you a psycho? You’ve stated many times you want revenge, to make her suffer, and teach her a lesson… understandable if she feels the same about you.
One definition of insanity = doing the same thing over & over, and expecting different results.
For 40 pages, you insist she’s a psycho… and she insists on not answering your calls & messages for 1 year. Hmm.
And who knows what you said in those… or why you “drink with [JP hostess girls] quite a lot… for years”.
Anyone who is framing themselves as a saint and the other person a devil… is likely leaving out inconvenient details.
And if someone kept asking for their stuff back, and I sensed they thought I was a psycho? No way. Are you crazy?
But if they took some responsibility & actually felt remorse & apologized to her & her parents?
Via letter or other means now, since you long since slammed shut your many windows of opportunity.
And without trying to get their stuff back… you seem to care more about the stuff than the end of a relationship with the woman you “loved completely” & couldn’t wait to marry".
If I sensed genuine sincerity (no way I trust your words)… well, I’d probably give it back. Not the same day, but sooner, not later. I can imagine feeling guilty if I kept holding onto it. Receiving acceptable closure, it’d be time to move on.
But you’re suing her, so never mind.
Some people want to know what’s right… some always think & keep insisting they’re right.
Anyone who does the latter, especially for 40 pages, is usually wrong about many issues. Maybe has issues.
If you were right about everything, you would’ve made all the right decisions in your life (which you didn’t during the CNY break up)… and you wouldn’t still be wondering how to get your stuff back after a year. Now you have an out of control, mountainous, fussy, unresolved problem that you’ve publicly blown to 40 pages in 1 week.
If you wanted community understanding, your strategy has been an utter failure… like your relationship. Reflect why.
Like avoid multiple text walls. Few have time or energy to read them all. Others have told you, but you insist on doing it… and then expect others to read it when they miss details. Makes you look psychotic. And then you agree with farmingmountains on pg. 40, saying many posters here are “turning into psycho xiaojies”… you look psycho saying that. It actually puts them in a positive light.
Wish you both good luck. But more to her, honestly. You probably think I’m a psycho, anyway.
So forgive me if I don’t respond to your incoming text wall rebuttal. No time, so I’ll ignore it… just like your ex has done.
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