[quote=“fredericka bimmel”]Sorry to offend you, Tomas. That’s not what I intended.
It’s very difficult for women to achieve the sort of fantasy ideal image that Hollywood/magazines expect them to live up to. It contradicts female self-esteem, especially amongst young women. It could be linked to root causes of anorexia, bulemia, and other complexes or depression.
When people age, it is natural that their bodies begin to sag or wrinkle, even those who’ve taken very good care of themselves. To defy aging is impossible unless they’re blessed with amazing DNA, or have enough money to augment themselves (liposuction, breast lifts, collagen) It makes me think of the film with Goldie Hawn and Meryl Streep, “Death Becomes Her”!
For men to expect their female partners to remain nubile much past their 60s, especially after having given birth, is well, cruel.
What would you do if your partner lost her breasts to cancer?
Get an intact model?
If her breasts sag should you ditch her and look for a 22 yr old?
If you had not gone on the attack so quickly, I might have had a chance to express my views on this very issue, which are the same as yours.
I have a number of lovely female relatives who are overweight by most standards, and obese by Hollywood standards. I’ve seen them put themselves through hell trying to live up to Hollywood standards. Just being healthy isn’t enough.
The influence the American cosmetics and fashion industries have on beautiful, normal women is immense and devastating. Perhaps the most extreme example for me was a gorgeous professional cheerleader I dated for about six months a few years ago. Within that period, she had two plastic surgeries (breast augmentation and RK). She was already perfect (I reminded her of this frequently, but to no avail). I blame popular culture and her own inability to see the forest for the trees. Her obsession with every little flaw, every pimple, every extra ounce beyond her 105 pounds eventually made her very difficult to be around. She was a smart woman (a bank manager during the daytime–cheerleaders don’t make much money), but had been so objectified for so long that she actually believed her value came solely from her physical beauty. She had other qualities that I liked, so I hung in there for a while, but I eventually couldn’t fight it anymore and stopped going out with her. Again, I blame an insidious popular culture that makes people feel like they have to be physically and materially perfect before they can be happy.
Hell, Sandman and Maoman can tell you I ain’t no perfect physical specimen (although I’d like to emphasize that they personify the male ideal of perfection), but I don’t worry about that. Just do the best with what I have. Fuck Hollywood. Tom Cruise is about 5 foot 7, and Brad Pitt has bad teeth and acne scars. We never see that.
As for male frontal nudity, that seems to be left to Ewan MacGregor and Harvey Keitel.