So I(Taiwanese woman in my 30s) met this guy(expat in his 40s) on Tinder two or three years ago, back then when I just finished a super, super long relationship and can’t be happier to jump back to the open water and enjoy some no-strings fun. We hit it off immediately and have casually hung out for a pleasant six months. Things were light-hearted and passionate.
Then came the pandemic, we both stuck somewhere else and only reunited again earlier this year. We were happy to see each other and spend lots of time together, we go out, meeting each other’s friends, staying home watch movies and he’d cook dinner.
We didn’t talk about being in a relationship, though we are pretty much doing the couple’s thing. Problem is, he stops wanting sex. I’d stayed at his two or three nights a week and we had sex once in two months. We are both attractive people and used to doing great in the bedroom. I mentioned the lack of sex and he says it’s because he’s worried about work and parents in Europe.
I understand that he could be under stress but I appreciate physical intimacy. We never talked about our feelings toward each other. I thought we need to talk but I do not completely know what should be my approach. I do like him but I guess you can’t force people to have sex with you(no, you can’t, it’s a crime!). Any suggestions about how could I handle this conversation which I’m reluctant to have?