point 1: “the 1950’s suburbia idea of women slaving in the home” is BS,but…
point 2: men do want “real” women.
on point 2, i mean we like girls who act like girls. women who let us be the man. i’m sure the opposite is true. women like a man who takes charge of taking care of them. however, a lot of women nowadays, particularly in taiwan, seem to think " if you want to take charge of me you have to run faster than me". it becomes a competition with the woman setting the pace based on her “accomplishments”. yet these same women, once they find a man whom they percieve as being more “li hai’ than them they feel have a right to quit their job and let him do all the work. I’m not trying to be vulgar or sexist, but that seems to be the " my vagina is made of gold” way of thinking (sorry for this expression but i think it’s apt).women DO use their sexuality as a tool. perhaps that’s a primal survival mechanism. from a scientific point of view it’s interesting, but from a life point of view it’s a problem.
I don’t find career women particulary attractive from a mental/emotional standpoint. there’s something about them that doesn’t engender a ’ I want to work 3 jobs just to take care of you" feeling in me.I like a girl with no career future, NOT because I want to dominate her and make her my house slave, but because I think all 'real guys" want to be the provider and the leader. the caregiver. we want our women to help us take care of them. it’s a loving circle, not a competition.
sorry to keep going on, but the movie “Wives of Stepford” really touched some points that I’ve been wanting to express for some time. I have issues about the male/female condition. it’s true that women are more upwardly mobile salary and career wise. they have more rights in the workplace now, and many more that need to be addressed. however a double standard exists which allows women (in Taiwan at least) to decide everything. we men bend over backwards trying to prove we are good guys. women here have been coddled/ raised to think that men have to prove their worthiness, yet they (women) have nothing to prove.why should i give my hard earned money to you? what have you given me? why should I have to pass peer review (bring your friends on a previously agreed upon date to check me out)?what have i done that is suspect? maybe you aren’t up to par, did you ever think about that?why should I have to prove to your parents I’m a good guy? why don’t yours prove that they’re not after my green card and a free ride to the States? okay, I’m ranting personal.but I’m sure a lot of guys feel this way.