[quote=“headhonchoII”]Nice contribution SK, still remember we also have families here too and we are usually pretty isolated in Taiwan so we often have to figure these things out ourselves. If we can’t get it off our chests here where can we talk about it.
Listening to the inane conversations on what passes for public transport gets me over my fairytale construction of living back in the West. That and taking a tube ride and seeing all those dead to the world faces!
Yesterday I brought my kid to the playground, nice folks with their kids there, of course my kid gets too much attention sometimes, at one point five adults are staring down at him, so I have to really balance not being rude back to the Taiwanese parents at times as most of them are actually really friendly just overbearing. I did tell one to look at her own kids, didnt go down well but sometimes it has to be said. Interestingly it is the waiguo peiou foreign spouses that chat with me the most easily, guess we have shared experiences.[/quote]
I agree that venting is a good thing, HHII. So is supporting each other. However, you also need lots of perspectives to stop it becoming racist diatribe. Now if forumosans could only learn to see that debate is essential when people are venting about these sorts of issues it would be one step closer to being a better community.
I also know some of you guys have families in Taiwan, but staying there is a decision, not a forced choice. You could all leave any time you like. But the money, family, whatever, outweigh this other stuff. Vent away, but remember it’s damaging you to keep thinking some of the things you think. Change yourself, get some fresh perspective, open your mind to new ways of thinking about these things.
My 4 year old nephew had the experience of going to his local park and not being able to communicate with the local kids because they spoke Farsi and didn’t speak a lick of English. We thought it was pretty funny. Other people would think it indicative of the degradation of our society. I can go about my day much more smoothly if I adopt the healthy attitude to the situation, rather than go home and start getting all mad about, ‘what’s become of my community,’ blah blah blah.
EDIT: My words there weren’t aimed specifically at you, HH2, just employing the general, “you.”