I am pretty sure I am going to end things with my boyfriend tomorrow. If I can even get him a) on the phone or get him to leave his work long enough for me to talk to him.
Thing is, I really don’t want to. But I need to. I know it will end anyways. And I know why and how. He works too much. He neglects me. He doesn’t return my phone calls half the time, he hasn’t stayed over but twice this month. I know he is busy, but I know others who are also busy. Who are as busy. Who spend only about an hour a week with their women, but an hour a week is still an hour a week more than I get. So yeah, I really should leave.
So here is the question:
When you love someone, but the relationship is shit; when you really love the person and don’t want to hurt them; when you want to at least stay friends, how do you end it?
I know he is going to tell me he will change (which he won’t). I know he will ask me to stay (and I know I should not). How do you keep the strength to stand your ground?
I know he will give me excuses. he always has so many of them. and they are always good excuses. but I really think that if he really wanted to be with me, he would work out the excuses, get through the shit, and be with me. Since it is clear to me that I am his last priority.
Blah. Any advice on how to do this without becoming a crying mess? I am not very good at the entire breakup thing. Not all that experienced in it. Most of my relationships have been very long and died due to school, work, both, location, or other such.