[quote=“Icon”][quote]Often, it is a matter of logic. At other times, it makes me realise [color=#0000FF]how once you scratch away the superficialities of modern life[/color], the fundamentals of births, deaths and marriages,[color=#0000FF] really show how different some cultures can be[/color]. What happens at a wedding speaks volumes about a cultural world view. I can see it, and understand it, but I’ll never really understand it.
Absolutely agree with you. I cannot understand where they are coming from, or why. I can appreciate it, observe it, analyse it… and I don’t get it. But it also happens to me with some issues about my own culture. Customs and mores…
Sometimes we say “it’s illogical” because it doesn’t meet our expectations. But it is not logical to expect what would be normal in our own enviroment. That is I tell myself here they use a different “logic”. I would dare to say that what is natural in one place is strange in another, yes, but then there are things you just can’t explain away so easily. Sigh[/quote]
Sure. There are some things (such as letting people get out of an elevator or train first before trying to get in) that are a matter of logic.
The trouble becomes just working out which fall into that category. There is probably a social root to most rituals or activities, though they’ve often lost their meaning. To go right off topic, the whole Christmas (or other foreign festival) thing here is a little odd. Much of the Christmas imagery and so on doesn’t make much sense to us in the West, but the whole thing is totally de-contextualised. I can’t even begin to understand where the Christmas thing is coming from here, other than 1) trying to make more money or 2) people trying to be cool/modern/Western. Still odd.
[quote][quote]Maybe for you. For me, it makes me feel really uncomfortable if I think about it. I go with the flow, because it’s kind of “whatever” in this case. There are other cases where I don’t/won’t go with the flow.
Yep, I see your point. It makes me feel bad because there are other relationships: friendship, enjoyment, etc. which should supersede these material issues. Alas, money rules even in matters of the heart. I console myself with my own practical explanation… or avoid weddings like the plague. Lately, it’s been more of the last one -I tell them every wedding I go to ends up in divorce. [/quote]
Haha. Nice one.
I guess maybe for Taiwanese culture, the material issues can’t be removed from weddings, perhaps because they’re not that far into “prosperity”. I don’t know. It strikes me that an obsession with the material is somewhat indicative of that. I see that with my own family. Much of what my mother does and thinks is incredibly materialistic, and I’m sure that’s a response to her poor upbringing. My father is not burdened by that kind of reaction to everything, and he grew up in the middle class.