[quote=“Buttercup”]It wasn’t a criticism. I’m not saying forumosa ‘should’ be anything. However, ignoring things that are unpalatable or offensive such as sexism and racism isn’t really acceptable. I’m not really doing that in this thread, though. More like poking fun at the whole ‘sex tourist’ thing. Yes, any woman can sign up and join, but few stay long because the overall tone of the sight is sexist and mean, and any female posters who stick their heads above the parapet are mercilessly personally attacked. For the thinner skinned female poster, there is absolutely no incentive to post or even read.
Furthermore, I think that criticism is important. It’s how things move forward and change. If the only people who used forumosa were the ones who loved everything about it, then how would it grow?
If you want to have a private gang of boys who talk about how women from home are all bitter ugly harpies and how Taiwanese women are all crazy and materialistic, then a private gmail or facebook group might be in order, not a public website.
I did quit, completely, for about three months, but many people asked me to start posting again, and I confess that I had a little curiosity about whether the site had shifted in any way. But I’m an expat in Taiwan too, and I shouldn’t be driven off the site by boys who want to poke fun at women. It’s a privately-owned site but it is in the public domain. The users have a responsibility to not start juvenile and idiotic threads about breast size or ‘My Taiwanese girlfriend does X, is this normal?’.
My (long and extensively documented, I know… 
)disappointment with forumosa is that the offensive stuff is generally tolerated, it’s the dissent that is not. The ‘Buttercup’ shitfight is what is ‘offensive’, not the original post.
Yes, I’m rude sometimes, but I’ve never physically threatened anyone, made personal comments about anyone’s appearance, stalked anyone, put my hand on anyone’s arse, questioned anyone’s mental health, made personal comments about anyone’s sex life, etc, etc. All of these things have happened to me as aresult of forumosa. Sometimes these things have been dealt with, sometimes they haven’t. Maybe because I have been doubly aggressive back and neither tolerate it, nor leave.
This isn’t an attack against the mods or admins or even the posters, but simply an explanation of some of my motives.
Anyway, Rascal, you’re taking us off-topic. But guess who’s going to get temped?[/quote]
Your assumption about Forumosa’s target excluding women is wrong - actually its down right outrageous. If anything, there is a private Women’s forum because we specifically encourage women to participate in Forumosa. More can be done, and I believe the moderators and admins of the website are open to ideas and suggestions
Criticism is very welcome here. Always has been. But what you spout is unhelpful. It’s one thing to call out a problem - that’s easy. What would rank as truly Classic is providing ideas, alternatives, new perspectives. That is how we grow, not by merely saying “I don’t like this”.
Your response to all the vitriol is to fire back twice as hard? Not very interesting. “Be the change you want to see,” is what a wise man once said, right? And he managed to rock an empire and change the world. Give it a try sometime, it’s more fun
And, yes, this will get temped - or even better moved to the Feedback Forum where it belongs
)disappointment with forumosa is that the offensive stuff is generally tolerated, it’s the dissent that is not. The ‘Buttercup’ shitfight is what is ‘offensive’, not the original post.
…so be it…what buttercup should really do is set up a mirror site (for embittered western women stuck in asia 