I never got that. In another thread on here some schlamiel was bragging about banging other guys’ wives, and an intelligent, educated, gentleman of a Forumosan said that if it were his wife, he would cut off a certain appendage of the poster and mail said appendage to said poster’s mother. Ahem.
In one of the weirdest moments of my life, I was with a friend who caught his girlfriend cheating on him, nearly red-handed so to speak. She and the guy came out the bedroom fastening buttons and zippers as we were walking upstairs. Neither made any attempt to deny what happened and the guy looked very embarassed (she didn’t). My friend was a big guy, and a hell of an athlete, and it took all my strength to restrain him and drag him out of the house. He hit my arms and chest several times as he struggled and I had bruises for weeks. It wasn’t until later that I convinced him his anger was completely misplaced. He didn’t really know the “other guy” in question and they certainly weren’t friends. The only betrayal was from her. He did break up with her once he calmed down enough to make coherent speech and dial numbers on a phone, but it still took me some time to convince him to let the other guy alone completely (he kept saying he wanted to at least slash his tires). There’s always gonna be dudes sniffing around for some action. They’re a force of nature. The only relevant issue is whether the gal is gonna be faithful or not.
It seems like most women are sensible enough to blame the cheating boyfriend/husband, but I think a lot of guys’ first instinct is to blame the other man, even when they don’t know him from Adam. So my question to you good folks is this: Why?
The only thing I can think of is misplaced anger. Shifting the blame from where they know it belongs to a target they (usually) care nothing about. Or, they think of their girlfriends/wives as being weak-willed and unable to control themselves. Other than that I can’t think of what it might be.