[quote=“Boss Hogg”][quote=“Tomas”][quote=“Boss Hogg”]Wait… Tomas, my wife was under 25 when we got married. That was 3 years ago. So, I don’t really agree with your statement.
The wife is a babe. (happy now honey? Would you like a foot massage?)
Yeah, sitting beside me.[/quote]
Well Boss, I said most local women under 25, not all women. I’ve no doubt you found the rare exception. I have a few other friends who have as well. My comments are meant as a caution to fellow who don’t realize that the playing field here is, in general, quite different from the one back home.[/quote]
Ok, I am going to reply to this thread seriously now. That will be a welcome change.
In principle I agree with Tomas and indeed playing the field here is, in general, different from back home.
Playing the field western style is frowned upon in most parts of Taiwan. Take her out, pop her cherry, then move on to a new conquest. That is why western men in Taiwan are considered very “se”, dirty and lustful, and some women, althogh attracted to these men, will stay well clear of anything that could lead to any of the bases being got to, let alone scoring a homer.
I have had my fair share of Taiwanese girl friends but I played the game much the same way as the Taiwanese do. So, when I wanted to become involved with my wife her parents had no problem because I already had established a good rep in town and people felt that I did things the right way. It perhaps isn’t really the right way, but it was their way.
Girls in Taiwan are more than a little emotionally naive, in general. I remember my first TW gf was a whole 3-4 years older than me. It was much better than the pickings around my own age. However, even at her age she was still a mess of emotions and very unstable. She wanted to feel like a “small girl” and have the “big man” taking care of everything. Late - always Last minute changes of plans like I call to meet her at our appointed time and “Oh, I decided to go to Taipei, sorry”. Therefore we parted company.
Other girls have a curiousity about foreigners, they like you, well, because you are a foreigner but are not generally interested in forming a relationship with you. Perhaps in private she says she is your gf but in public it’s “oh no, he is just my friend”. What, do they think we don’t understand Chinese or something if it’s not directly spoken at us?
Playing the field too much could led to a lot of problems in Taiwan, I don’t think it’s because they are psycho, I think we just play the relationship game a different way.
Give it time and things usually become easier.[/quote]
Thanks Boss, for a reasonable response.
To clarify, I’ve never been much of a playboy. I prefer long-term relationships. As someone who didn’t grow up here, I simply didn’t understand that younger women, in general, don’t have the emotional maturity to handle an adult relationship. I’ve learned that now.
I’m going to leave forumosa for a few days. When I wrote this original post, I expected either few responses or at least reasonable responses, like the ones posted by ironlady, hexuan, amos, MaPoDoFu, fredericka, almas john, tmwc, Boss, and others. What I didn’t expect was that the self-righteous, arrogant, and wholly underqualified armchair shrinks like Flika and mod lang would jump in and spill their drivel at my expense. I should have known better.
You guys fight it out if you want. I’m too busy for this shit. See you next week.
