I forewent on future opportunities.
I think you need to do some international tax structuring
Allocate only minimum wage to Taiwan, and get the rest of your income through an offshore bank and keep it hidden from your taiwanese girlfriend
Did she say how she is going to spend the money? If she invests it or plans to buy a home with it then maybe she is a keeper. If she spends it on handbags, then keep the extra income hidden from her.
Is she a lawyer? Just wondering if might be a gold digger I know. She might say she is 40 and even might look around that age but is 50. One of her boyfriends broke up with her so she is distraught at the major impact on her financesā¦so will be on the hunt for a new stoogeā¦oh, sorryā¦I mean boyfriend.
Only a few dates and she is already attempting to manipulate and control you?
Regardless of her age, donāt get further involved.
The first error is dating a colleague.
Because when it goes wrong, you will see them 5 days a week.
The rest has been addressed by others here.
Question: would you accept this deal from a woman in your own country? Why then are you willing to even entertain this proposal?
I ask these same questions of newcomers. Yes, the laws and customs are different. You should be aware of them as a foreigner. That is OK. And it is very good of you to ask before, well, making a mistake by bring too compliant.
First of all, Taiwan is comprised of different ethnic groups. Each area has its own customs. Each family a diverse and varied background. Hence, there is no fixed āthatās the way itās doneā carved in the stone of a monolithic culture, followed as the Word of God. So you are not breaking any rules by not feeling this plan is kosher.
Second, every family deals with money in its own way. But as a foreigner, you have to be extra careful of finances. Putting all your assets in your wifeās name usually results with you eventually losing all should there be a divorce.
Third, you cannot change this personās view or even the societyās view of foreigners. Some very deep racist concepts have deep roots. So your āsacrificeā by investing half your salary to prove yourself worthy and reliable will fall on deaf ears. She will always see you through those lenses, as āthe otherā, and find an excuse to prove herself right.
Is she hot? Like really hot? Or like librarian and sexy cat at Halloween hot?
OK, but anyway, no. āIām sorry you feel that way. I like you but that is a 20 years of marriage request before our first overseas vacation.ā
And wut, you believed her? Ah, the male ego.
How did her clothing change over the four dates? What other signals did she give you?
I mean, hilarious, but Iām genuinely curious. Dating! At 40! Wow. Whoosh, right over my head. Iām sure Iād be so bad at it. But I would laugh, like loudly out loud over the appetizers if I heard some shit like that.
Yeah better to be up front and honest about things. Saves trouble that would pop up later.
Guy
Or show up with a younger gal you took to McDonalds and did standing up in the alley.
Please Mr Smith, this is a family friendly site!
Guy
Not me! Iād never be able to keep my foot up on the crate. Just making a point.
Greedy woman has no care about you. Nothing to do with being Taiwanese. And donāt think it as a Taiwan culture issue.
Anyway Taiwan is not one homogeneous culture. There are races, religions, subcultures.
After marriage or leading right up to it if youāre close to it then one or the other may take more control and help manage the money just like in the West.
My wife says Taiwan has crazy people too.
Gay sauna costs anywhere from 350 - 1000nt per 24 hours. All the sex you want if youāre into that sort of thing.
For straights hookers are a lot less than half your salary.
How long have you dated her? On the first date this sounds like a scam.
Married, maybe, but even then that just sounds like a scam.
Heās talking about dating a woman.
no, thatās what she said. she said that i should know that she wouldnāt be interested in me because i didnāt shell out. not my ego saying āobviouslyā, i understand maybe she wouldnāt be interested for lots of reasons (iām older, fatter, not really a good time kinda guy). Iām reporting what she said. Ah, the @jdsmith
first and last dates were no makeup, clothing varied depending on our activities.
itās been a while and i canāt recall everything. she definitely didnāt give any signals that she was interested, aside from agreeing to go out with me and being generally pleasant when we went out.
I find it is easier now than it was when i was younger. For one thing, the range of possible dates has gotten much larger now that i am older and have a little cash in my pocket. Also, i donāt really care so much.
This was via text message, and recently I was cleaning out my LINE and deleted the contact and chat, so sadly I canāt share it with you (itās fun!)
Even dating a woman, or finding a hooker doesnāt cost half your salary.
Actually, for that cost you could just get a mail order bride.
I came to the conclusion that sheās way hotter than him.
Yes. I said that, but itās also safe to assume that suggesting a gay sauna is unlikely to be helpful.