Sounds like me. I planned to stay a while, but now I can’t wait to leave and never speak with another Taiwanese again.
Sounds like me. I planned to stay a while, but now I can’t wait to leave and never speak with another Taiwanese again.[/quote]
You sound like a redneck.
I came to this topic because I was listening to a few local Taiwanese guys talking about dating Taiwanese girls vs dating Asian-based foreign girls vs dating non Asian-based foreign girls… it was amusing to me as I only cared about dating the woman I find compatible in philosophy, interest, etc. I just wanted to see what some Taiwanese guys think here out of curiosity. However, after reading dreadful 5 pages, I had to give my 2 cents although I really didn’t feel like giving my opinions here as they’re most likely moo point.
- Posters please state your status first. i.e. your nationality (Taiwanese and non Taiwanese) and ethnicity (Taiwanese, ABC, Asian, non-Asian) mainly because I have a feeling a lot of you posted and didn’t realize readers might misunderstood what your situation is.
- Please only talk about your personal experience as a lot of you say what you see or what others said and I’ll tell ya, most of that is biased and even misunderstood and manipulated in reality. Generalization can be deceitful in mind.
- Everyone likes to give advice and try to be helpful, but please elaborate in details as this is a sensitive issue and very very easily misunderstood.
I’m not Taiwanese (although my dad is), and frankly for the Taiwanese guys, if you want to date foreign women, just try to get to know them better and find the right time to approach them with your intention and get to understand their culture first. Dating is very simple in my opinion, just talk to the girls you’re attracted to and see if you two have lots in common and chemistry. If the foreign women show they’re only interested in someone not Taiwanese or even not interested in dating, then move on, talk to someone else and go from there, just like normal dating (well, at least normal for us US Americans). Last but not least, hygiene man, hygiene! Quite a few Taiwanese guys I meet here just don’t use deodorant, don’t use cologne, don’t brush their teeth and goggle daily, don’t shower daily, and dress like a ‘metrosexual’(ok, I know quite a few females that are way attracted to gay guys so this might not matter) and this part I don’t know, because I’m not a woman, but man that’s unattractive if I were a girl. Oh, and I do must say I agree with some earlier post mentioning don’t try to use the ‘I want to learn more English by dating’… that feels kinda weird to me as well. Anyway, hope this helps, but I’m no expert in relationship and frankly don’t care if this didn’t Last but not least, my philosophy on dating can be from this movie:
Lloyd Christmas: Hit me with it! Just give it to me straight! I came a long way just to see you, Mary. The least you can do is level with me. What are my chances?
Mary Swanson: Not good.
Lloyd Christmas: You mean, not good like one out of a hundred?
Mary Swanson: I’d say more like one out of a million.
[long pause]
Lloyd Christmas: So… you’re telling me there’s a chance… YEAH!
Try 1001 nights (hookah lounge bar) at the corner of Nanjing and Guangfu on Friday and Saturday nights. The foreigner count way outnumbers the locals.
Good luck.
I have been to Taiwan before and this is my third time here. I have seen foreign women at night markets, trails such as elephant mountain, and at meetup groups. Another place to start could be the vegetarian restaurants and the cafes. For some reason I tend to see the most foreigners at the night markets that are touristy though. Think touristy and I am sure you will find your match.
I am HORRIBLE with white girls so I am not a good person to ask about them . But I heard the best approach is a straight forward approach.
I also heard they are pretty hard work and high maintenance 
your mileage may vary.
ask Andrew. hes a pro on white chicks 
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This only happens in the movies. Never saw any one meeting in these places if they are solo. Really, when was the last time you’ve seen someone take initiative in this type of place? 
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how about park, underground of Taipei main station, hospital lobby etc.?
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ROFL
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how about park, underground of Taipei main station, hospital lobby etc.?
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‘Hello are you lost too? I’ve been here since Tuesday !’
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My first question is: why do you want to find a foreign woman? I’m not saying it’s necessarily wrong, but as a foreign woman, I’ve met guys who are specifically looking for foreign women and I was really turned off when I found out that information. Of course, it depends on your reasons. I’ve just met some creepers who want to meet foreign women because they think they’re all easy to get into bed, or because they want that notch in their belt because they saw some attractive women in porn or whatever. Not saying that’s you, but…those people are out there and it completely turned me off from dating anyone who was specifically looking for foreign women.
Second, don’t go to language exchange to find women. Please. Most of my friends avoid language exchange meetups because A) it usually turns into us giving people free English lessons and getting not much Chinese practice and B) There are too many people there for romance rather than actual language exchange. In fact, we started calling it “the body exchange” for this reason.
My advice is find meetups that revolve around something you’re interested in, rather than ones that are specifically for dating. Maybe join some Facebook groups where a lot of foreigners congregate and attend events they plan that sound interesting to you. Make it a goal to meet interesting people that you have things in common with, and if it’s in the cards you’ll meet a nice foreign woman.
If your focus is solely on finding a foreign women to date, you might (probably will) inadvertently make women feel like you’re objectifying them due to their race/appearance. Just be chill and put yourself out there to meet new people and hope someone comes along that you click with.
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You know the best thing about international high school? You keep getting older but they stay the saaaaame age.
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Step 1: Watch A-sîn-sai
Step 2: Become a chef
Step 3: Learn French
Step 4: Move to France and work under a famous chef
I need to watch that again.
I hate language exchange because it just becomes me having to answer some questions 200 times because they somehow think everything in America is better.
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Yup. I (sort of) dated a guy I met at a language exchange once (like 3 or 4 dates) and NEVER AGAIN. It became clear that he thought it was cool to be seen with a foreign woman but he was in no way interested in an actual relationship and kept trying to keep me on the hook for when he felt like hanging out with me. He once ignored me for like two months and then tried to get me to go out with him on Valentine’s Day.
Most Taiwanese men I’ve met who have specifically wanted to date foreign women were off somehow. I’m married to a Taiwanese man now, but when we met he had never even really thought about dating a foreigner. I felt safe because he was basically like “I never really thought about it but I like you as a person so that’s why I’m dating you.” Haha.
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yea it sounds like those guys were following a stereotype about foreign women. i’ve had a lot of taiwanese say weird stuff about western women. it seems the common thought is western women are horny and jump into bed with everyone, kind of the same as they think of western men then.
nothing wrong with having a preference though. but yeah it should be easy to see who is serious and who is just in it for the thrills.
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to be honest with you, I really do not know where else to meet people outside of language exchange but language exchange gets on my nerve, because even though I look Taiwanese as soon as I said I spent any significant time in the US people start asking me annoying questions. Also I generally don’t like language related subjects so I hate language exchange.
I prefer foreign (not necessarily white) women, ABC types mainly for cultural reasons as I have absolutely nothing in common with Taiwanese and I don’t share their value. Plus sometimes Taiwanese are really pessimistic about their own country even though there are lots of things Taiwan does right compared to the US. But even with foreign women I find few things I have in common with…
Nothing wrong with having preferences! I’d say keep an open mind. My husband is Taiwanese, but many of his values don’t match with what you’d expect and he disagrees with plenty of things that are expected by Taiwanese society. I think there’s diversity in any group–there may still be Taiwanese people you’d really get along well with. Basically all I’m saying is that it probably doesn’t do you much good to assume you don’t have anything in common with any Taiwanese women or that you’ll necessarily have things in common with foreign women.
I can totally understand the annoying questions, though. So many people ask all the foreigners they meet the same boring questions (and sometimes personal questions that I don’t want to answer). I mean I can’t blame them exactly, they’re just curious. It’s really tedious for me, though. Haha.