Dating a woman with a kid

[Dr_Milker]

@Rocket

Also, I don’t like that word “donor”
It makes it sound so…clinical

Ejaculator?

[Rocket]

@Dr_Milker

@Rocket

Also, I don’t like that word “donor”
It makes it sound so…clinical

Ejaculator?

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Guy in front of the computer at 3 AM

You know…

[anon38216271]

@Rocket

@Dr_Milker

@Rocket

Also, I don’t like that word “donor”
It makes it sound so…clinical

Ejaculator?

Provider
Contributor
Originator

Guy in front of the computer at 3 AM

You know…

Baby daddy?

[Whatevah]

@Rocket

Not to generalise, but it seems a pretty safe bet that most single parents have enough real shit to worry about without getting involved with some goon who can’t decide if they want to be there.

She was cheated on and doesn’t get to see her kid often. If anything that makes her more likely to seek love. I actually know a few single moms who can’t stay single for a week.

[mad_masala]

If the kid is old enough and good looking like her mother, then why not? once the mother is too old o r two crazy you can start the relationship over with the younger version.

[anon38216271]

@Rocket

@Hanna

@Rocket

“If they’re not like really struggling to get by” is a big if, man. The workload is generally pretty rough. Also double duty in terms of parenting can be pretty fuckin exhausting.

Yes, parenting is still best done with two people for sure. I just see one of my friend’s moms, a lesbian who lives in a log cabin in the countryside who just decided to get a sperm donor and have a kid by herself when none of her relationships worked out, and I think damn, that’s pretty cool.

Yeah, well, Forrest, I seen a picture once of a dude who voluntarily got his johnson split in two like the hot dogs in the recipe on the back of the Velveeta box… but I don’t think it happens too often

Single parents who actually planned on it are a tiny tiny minority.

To the first part.

And to the second part of your post…you haven’t been in the States for a while. IJS

[Hanna]

@Whatevah

She was cheated on and doesn’t get to see her kid often. If anything that makes her more likely to seek love. I actually know a few single moms who can’t stay single for a week.

…and? I know single moms who’ve stayed single since the dissolution of the relationship that resulted in the birth of their child. I know single dads who weren’t cheated on who need to have a girlfriend all the time. Different people have different needs.

[Dr_Milker]

I think the kid is a major factor in the equation. If it’s a teenager who is going to hate anyone mom is dating by default, the relationship probably doesn’t have good odds of working out.

[Hanna]

@Dr_Milker

I think the kid is a major factor in the equation. If it’s a teenager who is going to hate anyone mom is dating by default, the relationship probably doesn’t have good odds of working out.

I think OP mentioned having met the kid and it going well. Although teenagers can be pretty unpredictable.

[Whatevah]

@Whatevah

it seems a pretty safe bet that most single parents have enough real shit to worry about without getting involved with some goon who can’t decide if they want to be there.

I was specifically responding to this. I don’t think its a safe bet that single moms don’t have waste time on non-serious relationships, that’s all.

[Dr_Milker]

@Hanna

I think OP mentioned having met the kid and it going well. Although teenagers can be pretty unpredictable.

Yeah, I was thinking more in general terms. I don’t really think the OP needs/would follow our advice.

[Hanna]

@Dr_Milker

Yeah, I was thinking more in general terms.

I think it’s the parent’s responsibility to talk to the kid about their new relationship, reassure them as necessary, and ensure that their partner isn’t being needlessly disrespected while also respecting the kid’s right to their emotions. A delicate balancing act, to be sure…

[DrewC]

I’m not going to read 50 posts of this shit.

The only thing I’ll say is I wouldn’t be here if my Dad hadn’t taken a chance on a single Mom. 40 years later they’re still happily married.

Do what you want, @ForuMosa1 but if she’s cool, go for it. Don’t be a superficial jerk about this “oh her body isn’t the same after a kid” crap either. There’s a whole category of porn called MILF for a reason. Plenty of moms look great and are great, inside and outside. People shouldn’t be prejudged or psychoanalyzed by people they’ve never even met, because they had a kid and now they’re single again. That’s such judgmental bullshit.

[Super_Fire]

@mad_masala

If the kid is old enough and good looking like her mother, then why not? once the mother is too old o r two crazy you can start the relationship over with the younger version.

[Dr_Milker]

@Hanna

A delicate balancing act, to be sure…

Yes. I’ve seen some pretty volatile situations involving single moms, their teenage kids and mom’s new boyfriend.

[Rocket]

@Dr_Milker

I think the kid is a major factor in the equation. If it’s a teenager who is going to hate anyone mom is dating by default, the relationship probably doesn’t have good odds of working out.

I don’t have to listen to you!! You’re not my DAD!!!

[Dr_Milker]

@Rocket

I don’t have to listen to you!! You’re not my DAD!!!

Or even better: “I don’t have to listen to you! You’re not my MOM!”

[sampomixer]

people divorce these days, people who can’t handle these kind of things are a) still young and inexperienced or b) living in the past.

[tempogain]

What if she has two kids from separate marriages

[sampomixer]

Every situation is different, I am not going to think about every specific situation and decide if that is ok…
More than 50% of mariages go bust, so it is a pretty common thing these days actually.