Unfortunate she doesn’t see her kid much, maybe 30% of the year and very long in between. The kid is too busy with school and all and lives with the father. In my case if she hadn’t told me about the kid early it would take so long to find out because we date, travel and all and the kid is mostly with the father. She makes a very good chunk of money, is very nice looking and intelligent. Of course I see she plans for the child financially etc (she has investments in the child’s name to hand to the child and adult age come etc). So yes, there are of course more thoughts going on than with my previously since relationships with other women. In this case, although it might sound weird, but her kid is not very involved in her life and vice versa. Unfortunately mostly is because the school, the kid has classes everyday whole day even Saturday.
I feel very comfortable with her and am enjoying it all. The relationship is tougher though. She is very determined in all she does, she plays hard and works hard. Even in extreme fun trips she is very into the moment, but not being taken away by it. She will have the most fun I have seen a woman having but she will estate clearly that she time to have fun is for that, and time to take things seriously is also for that.
She is not Taiwanese though, so I guess the point of view is different since here is also not her country. I already feel pressure being a foreigner I can only imagine her pressure being a foreigner, woman, and mother.
I am reading the other threads linked above and guess I am curious because in this case she doesn’t live with the child all the time. It is not like the other mom’s desperate for dating or finding a father for their kid. I could live with her for several months and not know about the kid if she wanted. Luckily she told me beforehand. I imagine if you have to take a little kid and parent it would be Much more difficult.
As for the religious side, when I talk to my Christian friends many frown upon me being with her even though the child custody is the fathers and he cheated on her and that displaced their short lived marriage. Basically the guy married a young and naive beautiful woman (The was a significant age gap) and then thought he could continue trying it all.
Now he is still in this serial dating dating many almost teen women and never settling down. I met him before, he seems like a nice guy for a friend but definitely not good for dating/marrying. He has this fetiche with foreign women. The kid is cool, busy as Taiwan kids can be but nice and polite and funny too. Mother and kid look like sisters so I don’t have the burden of feeling I am raising or parenting another man’s kid.
Now, if it was a little baby or small child I guess I would feel it heavily.