Well written L-A!!
Hang in there buddy. Relationship is all about communication, you can tried to talk to her and resolve the issue but seems like she rather end it than to work on it together. Relationship is about commpromising as well.
Now you can find a better lady that wants to get on all the time!! (like myself)
hope you feel better!
But he’s been with this girl for a mere two years, and they’re not even married yet. Is it just me or isn
oi, mate, shit happens, the best thing you can do is turn the shit in life become a lesson. At least she made it clear to you already. I mean, come on, make love once a month!? seperate bed!? how clear do you want her to make?
Here’s something you got learn from Taiwanes girls, apart from white chicks, taiwaness girls would do any kind of compromise if they love you, but once they despair, there’s no way back. Also, you should only come here cuz YOU want it, not for anyone else~~~
My advice for you is be a gentleman and keep your dignity, give her your best wishes and walk away, so at least, she’ll alway admire you for that.
Keep on, you’ll meet someone better for you soon, don’t sleep around through, the truth is, the Taiwaness girls who worth to date, despite guys like that~ very much :no-no:
I have one bit of advice for you: when you’re ready to find a new woman, don’t go around telling women how much you put up with from this one. I’m sorry for how harsh this sounds, but you sound like a bit of a doormat to me. If you happen to meet a woman who doesn’t really like you at all, but could use a roommate who pays the bills, she’s going to consider how easy it would be to use you for that purpose. A really bad woman would say to herself “wow, he sure put up with a lot from her, I bet I could get him to do this and pay that, and I wouldn’t even have to sleep in the same bed with him.”
I hope you find a new woman soon, and a good woman at that. But seriously, keep your trap shut about how much you put up with from this one.
some good advice and opinions. The problem with this thread is he’s probably now back with her, just had the best make-up sex of his life and they’ve now decided to get married soon. :s
Isn’t love fun!? I can’t think of a single couple that split on the first breakup…it usually takes about 3 for it to be “really” over.
The200Club Dating a foriegner for two years ahhh…do you still treat her like when you first meet and date ?? even on the bed ???
She wants to sleep in spearate beds not separate bedrooms…
maybe you can start drinking beer when you have a separate bedrooms ?? hehe =P
so you wont wake her up when you want to go pee often ???
do you take a shower after you drink few beers ?? especially right after you went to some bar or pub
you know ppl smoke there too …
Some ppl get really honry after drinking too … at that monment do you still spent time to please her ?? give her enough forplay ?? but before that maybe you need take a shower … talk to her sharing with her what’s going on you were with friends ??? what was you guys talking about ??? kissing huging give her a back message … i dont see why a woman would refuse what you going to do later
well unless she has a bad day … working too hard and tooo tired … not feeling well …etc or you guys living with her family and … her parent just sleep next to your bedroom ???.. oops
why is socialise with friends = drinking beers ??? 
how about drinking some soda ??
lalala…hope You can understand me Sorry my bad English
Young The200Club has been too quiet, I think you maybe right! Perhaps he’s going to have a quiet night in tonight - eh…
Let us know how everything is, The200Club… We are a nosey bunch here on Forumosa… But we do care 
Hey Frost - that dude Shuang has nicked your avatar - the cheek of it! :no-no: :no-no: :no-no: :no-no:
[quote=“Roach”]
Hey Frost - that dude Shuang has nicked your avatar - the cheek of it! :no-no: :no-no: :no-no: :no-no:[/quote]
That dude Shuang is my woman…and I made it for her. Shuang is pinyin for Frost 
See how it is mine, but reversed? I know it might be confusing, but she rarely posts, so it’s not so bad.
well, seems to be dudette considering the difference in the avatars 
(edit: oops, seems I left the window open a while before responding, and in the meantime Frost replied)
I agree with Shuang-I’ve never met a Taiwanese woman who’d begrudge me a beer, or who wanted less passion. Maybe OP needs to be careful of the smoked out clothes and hair, get some mouthwash, shower, and some flowers and massage oil.
Either that or [color=red]MOD: Bad Bob![/color] Some girls love that.
[quote=“bob”]Surely you meant dwahma dear.
Let me whisper something
in your ear.
Our friend’s got a girl
who don’t like beer.
the end[/quote]
oh bob.
We should report you for racism. That lispy accent is in clear violation of the hate laws we should all abide by. Quite the “theatrical” stereotype, no?
Also, Drama teachers speak better English than any of us. I believe its called diction?
Nice poem though. Very nice. 
A little confused here D. What would there be to talk about? Banshees ask me to keep it down. I think our neighbours actually prefer to hear our passions than me sleep (you know how close the quarters are in this town). Thank the stars above The Gumpette doesn’t care a jot. Herein lies my confusion: the day she does say something to me, I’d gladly move my snoring ass into the spare bedroom until I had the time and money to get sleep apnia surgery.
That’s love man.
Would you agree, D?
Some guys joke about the beer thing, but really, the OP said something like “I gave her my life”. Doesn’t sound like he is willing to sacrifice anything (of his own accord).
Erm…
And we thought “well just go then!” was harsh.
YES![/quote]
maybe?
[quote=“MiakaW”]
Now you can find a better lady that wants to get on all the time!! (like myself)[/quote]
oh miaka.
How could he not?
[quote=“violet”]I have one bit of advice for you: when you’re ready to find a new woman, don’t go around telling women how much you put up with from this one. I’m sorry for how harsh this sounds, but you sound like a bit of a doormat to me. If you happen to meet a woman who doesn’t really like you at all, but could use a roommate who pays the bills, she’s going to consider how easy it would be to use you for that purpose. A really bad woman would say to herself “wow, he sure put up with a lot from her, I bet I could get him to do this and pay that, and I wouldn’t even have to sleep in the same bed with him.”
I hope you find a new woman soon, and a good woman at that. But seriously, keep your trap shut about how much you put up with from this one.[/quote]
Snap! ouch.
Nice observation. Nice Avatar on your WW. Because of the horizontal scrolly thing, I thought you were posting well after 4 beers. Kudos to the TaiTai on an excellent post.
oh, bob.
Sorry I didn’t have time to read all the replies here, but I’ve just got to say…
ONCE A MONTH?
Are you kidding me? Jesus Christ man, she did you a huge favor by dumping you.
I know it hurts anyways and I feel for you.
But once a month?
Good riddance to her.
My sister and her ex husband. They started to have serious issues, he withdrew all of the money from their joint bank account, she told him that she would never speak to him again if he did not put it back, he did, she took half…and did not speak to him again anyways outside of the divorce proceedings.
My sister can be a pain in the ass, but sometimes she does things the right way LOL. 
Im still not feeling the ‘MOVE ON’ crowd. Sorry.
We have had a little conversation. It was a bit awkward, and we both kept our cool.
In my opinion, there are three reasons for sex only once a month. She has an extremely low sex drive, doesn’t like sex…or the sex is bad. Which is it?
#4 - she’s getting her sex elsewhere.
Let me share my sad little story. Maybe it’ll help. I dated this very nice gilr (lady) for about six months. She is classy (read high maintenance), beautiful, elegant, her English is perfect (raised in Singapore although she is Taiwanese, and educated at Cambridge in England) and she’s an elementary school teacher. So no problems with communication etc.
That’s the good part. In the first week of our dating I was three minutes late once. She went into a rage, spoiling the entire date and refused to talk to me for an hour because apparently this showed I had no respect for her. Even though I had to drive 20 minutes just to see her. Ever since that I always made sure I was ten minutes early. Then she started to moan about my smoking. Okay, fair enough. So then before I would go to meet her I would have a shower and dress in newly laundered clothes smelling all nice and fresh. I would not smoke until after I’d bade her good night (yeah still no sex). Then it became an issue that I was smoking when she was not around, so I quit for her too. (I thought, what is more important - her or the cigarettes…) Then the new issue became that I liked to go to the bar on Friday or Saturday nights to have a few beers with my mates and watch some sport. So I too wussied out and changed that for her. After two months we started having sex. She was a virgin (believe it or not) and I thought this was all rather special. I believed that this may be the one.
Just a side track here. By this time I was so in love and willing to to do anything for her. Everything seemed worthwhile from my point of view because I reckoned she (us) were worth the effort. My best friend (who incidently has been in Taiwan for 12 years and has extensive knowledge of Taiwanese woman-both carnal and otherwise) reckoned I was making a big mistake. He said she would continue to try and mold me into the man she wants me to be, but that it would never be enough. i.e. turn me into her little slave boy. And at the end of the day I would be unrecognisable from the guy she met originally. You know, like the woman who wakes up after 20 years of marriage (and of molding her dear husband) and then telling him she wants a divorce because he’s not the man she married…lol Myself, being as blinded by lust or love or a combination of the two couldn’t see the trees for the forest. The sex was good, but rather pedestrian - missionary position with the lights off!
Anyway, after making all these changes for her, one day we go out for lunch (and being a typical Taiwanese summer) with me wearing shorts, sneakers and a T-shirt. She was really upset and said I don’t dress appropriately. A big argument ensued (or I should say, a one sided tongue lashing directed at yours truly) and she went home leaving me dateless and lunchless.
So, yes you guessed it, I started to dress more “appropriately”. She had also broken up with me on three occassions (always on the Sunday, and then started to make amends - or rather allow me to make amends - around Wednesday). Once because of the smoking. Once because of the pub, and the third time because of sleeping late on a Saturday. So yes, she started to take offense at me staying up late (2am on Friday and Saturday nights) and sleeping late on Saturday and Sunday mornings (10 or 11 am). This too I amended like a good little boy.
Then one of my dearest friends was going to get married and I was invited to the bachelors party. Him being an older guy (44), nothing wild. Just a few drinks, a nice dinner and dancing at a club. So I dutifully asked her if this was okay (for me to go) and if I could then just meet her on Saturday morning instead of Friday night. Okay she said, but didn’t seem all that happy by it. I didn’t question it further because I didn’t want to “push my luck”. Saturday when I called her she suggested we just cancel our date for Saturday as she had her “own things to do”. I then messaged her and told her to enjoy her day. She phones me back and tells me she was worried sick about me all friday while I was “out drinking, flirting and probably smoking” like a bandit and that I don’t care about her… Yep, she dumped me again, because she “couldn’t handle the stress” any longer, and she can’t stand idly by while a potential “diamond” is completely happy with wallowing in the filth with common “coal”. Whatever the hell that means…
She probably reckoned I would call her back and plead for her to take me back, but she didn’t reckon on my best friend and his advice. He said…"I told you so :s "
So I didn’t call her again and that was that. Yes I cared for her, and yes I miss her. But the thing is she wanted me to be something I’m not. It just came to the point were I could no longer stand her melo dramatics, her fits of anger and yes, her nit picking. I had to make all the changes and she never once wanted to compromise on anything.
It was rough going for a while, but there are worse things than being lonely. And at least I have my friends. I can go out and enjoy myself. Wind down with a couple of beers after a long week at work. Share in the exhiliration of rugby matches with my mates and be myself. Eventually after being myself…hehehe…I have met a few other ladies. Maybe not marriage material, but nice girls nonetheless whom I can share some good times with and who are also just looking for a good time. One day I’ll meet my special someone, and she’ll appreciate me for who and what I am. But until that day comes, I’m happy and enjoying my life.
I suggest you do the same.
Good luck, mate. It’s never as bad as you think, and maybe you’ll look back on all this and laugh.
Oh ja, and as far as sex once a month is concerned. Woman are every bit as horny as men. They just disguise the fact better than we do. And, apart from bona fide medical problems, (I don’t know how old your ex is) woman around and over 30 are the sexual equivelant of a 16 year old school boy.
So…you do the math.
Such a sad and funny story Bismarck. I bet the moment when you decided not to call her back you lit one up. I know I would of.