A woman will submit to her man if he exudes either of tyranny or excellence. The former is pitiful, the latter sublime.
Itās that few people have the concept of respect for the personal space of others. In Taiwan, touching anyone from the shoulder down to right below the knee without explicit permission can be considered sexual assault. That law was written to protect people from being grabbed (or smacked) in what are pretty globally understood to be āprivate partsā. If you and your friend have decided that itās OK to smack each otherās butts, Iām not going to say anything to you unless you try to smack my butt, at which point I will smack your hand away and tell you to respect my boundaries.
Consent is not āculturalā. Itās something that the world of men seems to think is some stupid fallout from the MeToo movement. In reality, why the heck should anyone be allowed to touch another anotherās body without their consent? Only exception should be when the personās life is clearly in danger, ie. Theyāre lying on the floor unconscious and someone needs to check for a pulse/breathing/start CPR. By saying itās āculturalā, you give perpetrators an excuse to be disgusting and gaslight victims into thinking thereās nothing wrong with a very wrong situation.
Reading your second paragraph makes me question again your opinion and observations on Taiwan and in general.
Sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Might not be welcomed in a context where people slap each other as a form of endearment, as in the case I described.
The view is an outlier by world standards. In some places, hugging or kissing is a form of greeting. In the USA, whose governing class is now famously touch-averse, it could be grounds for assault. Now consider age of consent, which is 15 years old in many places, while in others, it is 18 years old. Clearly the questions of consent and propriety are culture-bound.
it is nothing in my culture, and I had thought it was the same in the west. I donāt do it and understand some people maybe donāt like it, but I didnāt know that it is an sexual assault in the US.
The world of men? What a stupid statement.
Spoken like a true man
At some point, please accept the reality that some ācultureā actually is wrong.
Even in my parentsā generation, it was not only accepted, but expected that you will beat your children. Here in Taiwan, like the US and much of Europe, thatās no longer legal. Itās certainly better enforced in the US than in Taiwan, where teachers are perfectly aware of where the bruises and broken bones on some of their students come from, but itās still not legal. Why? Because, after millennia of believing that beating children is a good idea, the cultures changed.
As for hugging and kissing being the norm: How many adults have come forward these past few years with stories of being molested by family members and other ātrusted adultsā as kids? Iām talking about in the US. These are kids who quickly came to know that their grandpa, uncle, teacher, priest, grandma, aunt, etc. touched them inappropriately, but everyone else in the family demanded that they give that person a hug and a kiss whenever they saw them. How many little kids do you see who donāt want to ākiss kissā that are still forced to by their family and then yelled at for not complying? You require people to hug and kiss others when they donāt want to and you teach them that their body is not theirās and they do not have a say in what happens to any part of it. The culture of āhugging or kissing is a form of greetingā has already begun to change. I know Italians and Latin Americans who always ask before hugging someone. They didnāt used to, but they know that not everyone wants to be touched, even other people from Italy who grew up with hugs and kisses.
You start talking about things being āculture-boundā and you go down a wormhole youāre never getting out of. Is it āculturalā to pay your SEA caregivers slave wages and expect them to work 24/7? How about going on a shooting spree because youāre having a bad day? Where do you draw the line between āaccepting and respecting cultureā and saying āNo, your culture is actually wrongā?
From my experience, I would say be cautious as you would be in any other country. There are awful people wherever you go in the world.
With that said, it is pretty safe to walk out on street. Most people are respectful of others. As a woman, for the most part I do not get harassed by men when I am out and about in public or in private.
I will say that there seems to be a special breed of older Taiwanese men who will try to prey on women. The worst Iāve ever had it was when I saw an old man jacking off in public on his scooter and he made direct eye contact with me. Iāve been propositioned to be a hostess or even worse a āmodelā for a banquet. If you wear shorts or tanks, some men will openly leer at you. With them, you need to be pretty loud and firm that this not acceptable behavior.
You mean you saw him drop his pants and wack his schlong while looking at you?
He was already wacking his schlong when I walked by. This was not an alleyway. It was an open street next to a government building. Definitely something that I never want to see again.
See Art. 80 to 85 of the Criminal Code.
https://law.moj.gov.tw/ENG/LawClass/LawAll.aspx?pcode=C0000001
If the incidents occurred long ago, see also Art. 8 to 8-2 of the Enforcement Law of the Criminal Code.
https://law.moj.gov.tw/ENG/LawClass/LawAll.aspx?pcode=C0000002
See also Art. 125 to 147 of the Civil Code.
https://law.moj.gov.tw/ENG/LawClass/LawAll.aspx?pcode=B0000001
In some jurisdictions thereās a rule that sexual crimes remain prosecutable for longer. I donāt think that exists here.
You wouldnāt want to take this on by yourself, so contact an organization that knows how to deal with it. @Icon might know of one.
Iām a foreign women whoās lived here for going on seven years. My personal experience regarding safety of all sorts is very positive. I can enjoy walks alone at night without feeling at all in danger, which says a lot. Obviously Iām not going to go explore dark, dingy, twisty alleys, but main streets and side streets? Theyāre fine. Thatās not something women in my home country are able to do.
Iāve never been sexually harassed here, either, unlike in my home country.
Essentially, I live in la la land.
Except for traffic. Watch out for traffic. Donāt cross the street with your music in.
A few commenters in here are mentioning nightclubs and KTVs and places like that. Never been to one. Canāt speak for them. (Yes, Iām the rare foreigner whoās managed to avoid KTV all this time.)
Iām a man, but I still know what you mean.
God no! Deaf people must really have a hard time.
I get that itās a major concern to walk alone in the streets for women. Lots of creeps and men are just more physically strong in general.
But I also get concerned as a man. Most random violence on the streets in most countries Iāve seen are male on male. Iām always hyper aware of my surroundings, especially if I donāt know the area well. But not in Taiwan. Even traffic Iām not too bothered with. I just kind of understand the flow of traffic.
Just 2 night ago, some guy got murdered from a stabbing 10min walk from me here in the U.K. and this is considered a safe town.
Iām a man, but I still know what you mean.
Iām a man, and Iāve been sexually harassed here. Crazy, mentally handicapped guy came up and asked to feel my chest and proceeded to do so. Wife was right beside me. We get a good chuckle out of it sometimes.