[quote=“tommy525”]Can i just say that tommy will be the way he is. Don’t bother changing him or his view of or his world.
I’m just having fun in this tread, not ever have asked for advice. Not a crying out because of some need
But its not fun anymore. It was meant to be a happy thread, but some of you guys need to get a life !
If its not fun? I ain’t gonna write more stories.
Don’t want you guys having it out at each other either.
Never asked for help from any one of you. I am fine. Are you ?
But I don’t want you guys getting all bent out of shape on a basically fun thread.
Far as I am concerned, better to bin the whole thing.
I can post stories on a new thread.
This will allow some old wounds mongst you to heal.
Me? I don’t have any wounds. Because frankly I don’t and won’t change because of you. And you won’t because of me.
Just be busy being YOU and don’t worry bout others being THEM will ya?
ssshh, you guys are NOT more fun then a barrel of monkeys. But yoU are ACTING LIKE ONE.[/quote]
Tommy, if this was a thread about your re-discovery of the area where you live in California, it would have been great. I love to read your posts about the places that you visit, and even yes, how much things cost. It’s like a personal travel guide. But the relationship side of your story is not funny, or light-hearted. Relationships are personal and serious, goodness only knows they need hard work to succeed, when you start to make a mockery of your own relationship is the point where you already have lost respect for your partner or hope that things will actually work out. Sad to say, but on this count the average person that reads your posts is at best going to be laughing at you (i.e. not with you) and at worst cringing.
People defend you and your right to post your story because they realise that you are a great guy with a good heart, who takes no offence at any insults that people throw at you. It doesn’t mean that they think like you, or see anything in what you say about your present and past relationships that relates to their own lives, or feel that they have anything to learn from what you say.
The fact that you sometimes refer to yourself in the third person (i.e. Tommy, the Tomster) shows that you do feel some kind of detachment from yourself, that you are looking on your own life as if it was a story and perhaps as if your purpose in life is to entertain others. It’s great to be a bit of a clown sometimes and not take yourself too seriously (I like to play the clown in my house and they love it, up to a point …), but Tommy, this is your LIFE. You only get one shot at it. it’s not a movie that you can replay if it’s great or choose not to watch if it’s dull. Most of us have messed up in the past, some of us can laugh at our past mistakes, some look back seriously on a lesson learnt, some have regrets, some do not. It’s all part of the learning process that life is. Looking back on the past with a wise chuckle/ slight cringe is one thing. But voluntarily making a mockery of yourself and your current life, to people who don’t even know you, doesn’t show that you are quite ready to learn anything yet.