This was over 20 years ago. I had only a vague memory of events (what I stated in my first post), but this has jarred my memory. My dad was on a business trip to Seoul, Korea where I was living at the time. I met him at the Hyatt Hotel. We had dinner and a few drinks. Then my girlfriend (who I more accurately called my “fling” above) comes by for our date. My dad excuses himself and tells me to charge things to his room (I’m not sure if he gave me a number or card or something to facilitate this). God bless his soul. My dad was really special. Being the good kid that I am, I didn’t go crazy with drinks and food that I charged to his room. I remember thinking later that I shouldn’t have worried about it because everything was on the company tab and my dad was never one to go crazy about food, drinks, nice company car, expense accounts, etc. Wow. All that just came back to me.
Edit: It was on that night that she and I made that promise to meet again. The meeting place was to be right there at the Hyatt bar/nightclub.
If anything I want her to know I feel remorse for what I did, on the off chance hearing something like that from me might help her in the long run. I made her feel terrible about herself I fear. To contact her would very likely pick at old wounds that are best left alone by now, damage is long done. At the end of it all it probably is for my own selfish closure as well, I didn’t give her that luxury years ago and I don’t deserve it now.
Thanks all for your replies. It helps to read your thoughts on the issue, I probably won’t find her at the end of it all anyway, needle in the hay. It likely is for my own selfish emotional benefit that I want to contact her, as I evolve out of my neanderthal 20’s. I hope to hell she’s successful wherever she is. Take the lesson, and never ever again.
Seriously, putting a post on PTT is probably your best bet. Most younger Taiwanese use it. They certainly don’t read Forumosa. If she reads it, she can choose whether to contact you.
So now 5 years later you now miss a girl that you didn’t like too much before… Well, for what its worth. Girls usually don’t take kindly to rejection, so if i’m sure you are far in her dust right now.
And you should move on too.
DrewC wrote the first response, and it’s a good one.
I’ve had these feelings before. “I wish I could go back and … I wish I could tell her … I wonder where she is now?”
My experience: Dwelling on the past can be a road to stagnation and depression. Focusing on the future, and getting involved in something new (new love, new career, or anything that motivates you) makes the past seem insignificant.
Better to move into the future, leave the past in the past.
My experience, you’re stuck in one cosmic bubble of people and you’ll keep running into the same group of people again and again on this island. All you you need to do is stay in one place long enough.
I’ve used the internet to find a German/Swiss girl, an exchange student I was friendly with years ago. I narrowed her down because she was into English Style Horseback riding.
I’m curious how people find each other when everyone has the same last name and even the same first name.
Us.
Hire a detective.
Maybe she has a friend or sister.
