Marrying a foreigner is not all that glorious. Here in Taiwan, a pal’s family bribed her mother who married an atoga because she brought shame to the family by not marrying a local. He died unexpectedly and they treated her as a shameful single mother, aside from no support, she had to pay for their debts and her children, including my pal, were always shamed as half breds. This was at the time when children of foreign fathers could not be considered ROC citizens, so they when they grew up they lost their residence here along with the family inheritance.
The boy being the prize leads to girls being treated as burdens. They must marry well and bring more money to pay off what was invested in them. That is tradition. The boy is useful as a farmland, a worker, a male heir, hence, they won’t let him go for all the money in the world. One just hopes they do not poison his mind so he forgets his family abroad and that his environment does not turn him into a psycho himself from bullying and shame due to his background.
In China, a single mother cannot register her child, for example. A divorcee has limited work prospects, especially with her social status. Even if he was paying her support, her burden and shame to the family , the social pressure in addition from getting on with a foreigner then divorcing him must have been too much. Hence, the explosion. Too many contradictions, no space to grow or release from pressure.
As to the guys, I hope you always use condoms and hope that someday you will also have access to other safer forms of birth control so that a one night stand, a psycho take me to America cling on type, or any other unsuitable partners can be avoided by getting on a plane, without leaving children behind.